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Mental health

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whats the point in life

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sheenanewmom · 12/02/2007 06:01

does anyone else feel we are dying everyday we wake up so if we stay a wake is that one more day we have to live ?

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Quootiepie · 12/02/2007 06:04

Sometimes - I used to really think like that, and it scared me. Luckily I am alot more positive about life, and want to put it to the best use I can, and hopefully even after I am gone, whatever I do will continue... so basically have a lasting effect. That doesn't scare me so much. If I thought about living for myself, say, and trying just to make myself happy, I think the fact every day I am closer to not being here anymore would scare me. Does that make sense?

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sheenanewmom · 12/02/2007 06:09

yes it does some days i am afraid to die it scares me to know that one day i will no longer be with my children i some times cry

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Quootiepie · 12/02/2007 06:11

Are you on ADs? I got so bad once, the thought of dying one day was on my mind all the time. Really really scaring me. But, when I started to get treatment for the depression, those dark thoughts lifted.

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sheenanewmom · 12/02/2007 06:12

no i'm not i have just gotten like this since i have had my daughter she is 3months

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Quootiepie · 12/02/2007 06:18

ah right. Have you seen the GP? It sounds like depression really, your view and rationalisation pretty much goes up the creek. You can't get your head round things so well, easily upset... well there is an endless list of things... 2 seconds I shall do a really good link.

stoppinattwo · 12/02/2007 06:19

When we have kids we do get a big reality check, and stop taking life for granted. Its natural, there are feelings and fears that we have to face. I wouldnt say this is something that you sound depressed about? more a natural feeling reality of your own mortality.

I remember feeling "who the hell is going to look after my kids like i do if something happens to me?"

Well nothing is going to happen..........not for a long time anyway. You take as many days at a time as you need to hun, your fears will fade............look after your DD. and big {{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Quootiepie · 12/02/2007 06:19

Here you go

At least skim the symptoms list - there is a bit about obsessive fears. Hope that helps xXx

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sheenanewmom · 12/02/2007 06:20

hey i always feelike i am living my life from the side lines

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Quootiepie · 12/02/2007 06:20

yes, it depends if you are worried about dying, or getting obsessed and totally fearful of dying... Obviously, as SA2 says it is normal to some degree xXx

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sheenanewmom · 12/02/2007 06:22

well thats good to know i am half crazy and half normal lol

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stoppinattwo · 12/02/2007 06:22

someone has taken your priority, you are putting them first completely, you will feel like your just functioning. When your little one starts giving back you will feel sooooo rewarded. XX

Quootiepie · 12/02/2007 06:22

Do you feel you can't get "stuck into" your life? I used to live my life looking back, not forward if that makes sense.

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sheenanewmom · 12/02/2007 06:24

see alot has happened to me in my life and now i am, taking care of my brother 2 kids and boyfriends some times i just want o to crawl under a rock if you know what i mean

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stoppinattwo · 12/02/2007 06:24

If i listed all the fears i have for my children and me (none for DP) i would be sectioned tomorrow!!

Mothers worry, we try to protect and prevent from harm. If it is becoming obsessive (hard to judge after just 3 weeks) then i would agree with QP maybe get some advice.

Quootiepie · 12/02/2007 06:25

You sound very overwhelemed. Do you have help at all? Did you read the link?

stoppinattwo · 12/02/2007 06:27

I need to go to work girlies........good to see you back QP, take care sheenanewmom.

Will be back laterXXX

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sheenanewmom · 12/02/2007 06:27

bye thank you

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sheenanewmom · 12/02/2007 06:27

no i didn't get the link can u send it again

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dabihp · 12/02/2007 06:27

have jsut read the thread you posted on the other thread about relationships and work. A new baby, giving up work, arguing with a partner, can mean losign your identity , makybe thats pasrt of it? maybe u could go back part time?

Quootiepie · 12/02/2007 06:28

Here - click this

At least read the bullet points xXx

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sheenanewmom · 12/02/2007 06:30

yeah thats what i think too i loved my job but he made me feel like a bad mom for working all the time i went back 5 days after i had my daughter i had c section

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dabihp · 12/02/2007 06:34

you know just having a c-section is enough to induce depression! i should know i had two of them!

Failure over ability to give bbirth, brith plan going wrong, (i didnt even get to labour!)

also you LO is so young, hormones still flyign baout the place.

do u go to mother and toddler groups?

can u go back to work part time? can u tell your dp to just 'fuck off' occasionally, just to make yourself feel better not a sollution but temporarily mgith help!

good luck, its hard....

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