Does anyone else feel lonely every day and not have anyone to talk to?

[woofwoof]

I have a DH and a child at school but during the day when they are out I am here all alone

I spend my time pottering around the house and watching TV and end up talking to myself then I get upset cos there is no one to listen to me.

DH rings me a couple of times a day but I don't have anyone else to talk to

My child goes to school independantly so I don't see anyone at school gate etc.

I have a friend {who I have been friends with for over 20 years} but if I ring her she does all the talking and tells me all her troubles and everything that is going on in her life and then when I start to talk she says she has to go or acts like I am boring her so I have given up trying to tell her iyswim.

No one knows what is going round in my head apart from if I tell DH. But he doesn't really understand,

I read that a woman has 1,000 + words to say each day well there is no one to listen to me so I end up saying them to myself

Am I the only one who doesn't talk to anyone all day every day during the week?

I'm sorry you're so lonely, woofwoof.

Is there anyone you can meet for coffee one day? Another MNer, perhaps?

Or could you do a college course or some voluntary work to keep yourself busy for a day or two?

Go and volenteer in a charity shop, or for home start or age concern. There are HUNDREDS of people who would LOVE to talk to someone as nice as you.

All those desperate, struggling new mums, all those lonely little old men - they would love to see you.

Sorry you feel so lonely woofwoof. I felt very lonely when I first had DS1 - it was the worst time in my life. What turned me around was going back to work and seeing people again.

If that's not an option could you consider volunteering - charities like Homestart are always looking for experienced mums to help out and places like toy libraries and sure start centres are generally glad of the help.

You're not alone in it though -

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you must summon the getupandgo to get up and go out! go to a mn meetup... go out and volunteer in a charity shop... go and offer to help on the committee of a local something or other (theyre always desperate for people to help)...
and/or spend all day on here! theres thousands of people to listen on here...

Get a job woofwoof!
No excuse for malingering.

yep, I know how you feel. Ds is 1 in a couple of days. Don't know many people where I live, the ones I know are at work. Bad recovery and no car has kept me home a lot.

Those suggestions about volunteer work etc sound good since you are free during the day. Give it a try.

oh {{hugs}} I feel like that all the time, at first I didn't care because DS was and still is (!) my whole life, but now he is starting to play by himself and things, I realise I am bored Not bored of him, but bored of the same thing, same company day in day out. But it has been so long since i've been out and about, if you see what I mean, I barely know where to start! I have moved a few times in a few years, all my old friends are off round the country (and the world!) at university, and I am petrified of mums and toddlers classes because I am painfully shy, and a young mum... BUT, I am meeting someone off MN in a week so am on the up Try the meet up section and see if any MNers live near {{hugs}}

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oh woof woof

The advice on here is excellent - if you do not want the committment of a job then look for voluntary work. If that feels strange go for what you know - ask at the preschool / school if therte is anything you can do or any local places - a hospital WRVS coffee shop??

Even though it is a small step and you will be with other children there are staff and parents for some adult contact and these things lead on to other things.

You need to get out but you also need a starting place so volunteering is the least scary IMO.

Lots and lots of people feel like this, you could change from feeling like this to helping others feel better. The bottom line I see is that you need some friends - you won't meet anyone at home but by venturing out and widening your social circle you will see more people and more chance of meeting like minded people.

oh woof woof

The advice on here is excellent - if you do not want the committment of a job then look for voluntary work. If that feels strange go for what you know - ask at the preschool / school if therte is anything you can do or any local places - a hospital WRVS coffee shop??

Even though it is a small step and you will be with other children there are staff and parents for some adult contact and these things lead on to other things.

You need to get out but you also need a starting place so volunteering is the least scary IMO.

Lots and lots of people feel like this, you could change from feeling like this to helping others feel better. The bottom line I see is that you need some friends - you won't meet anyone at home but by venturing out and widening your social circle you will see more people and more chance of meeting like minded people.

p.s. moondog is straight talking - but the essence of what she says is true.

i'm in a similar position that i dont have many people to talk to in the evening. I work and then I come home to kids, but canfeel lonely on weekends and evenings. I do have friends but it takes a lot of effort seeing them. it doesnt stop me from feeling lonely tho

Not everyone wants a job moondog

I feel the same sometimes too woofwoof. You probably would feel better if you had a part-time job/college course, but then again that applies to me too but I'm not ready to do it yet.

I'm shocked that women only have a thousand words to say each day - I'm sure I can spout out at least double that in a couple of minutes.

I have friends but they are all out of work during the day and then busy with their evening routine - dinner, bath kids, relax - and I don't want to interupt. My mum is exactly like you describe your friend as a lot of the time though. It annoys me because I'll phone her and she'll say that she hasn't got long, then she'll rattle off loads of things (often just moaning) and then say 'how are you?' and as soon as I respond she'll cut me short. Makes me feel really frustrated as sometimes I'm desperate to share something and I feel like I've been all polite to her by listening but she won't do the same back.

Hope you're ok today and enjoying Saturday afternoon with your family. I'm not sure if you put this in 'feeling depressed' because that's how you feel or if it just seemed the most appropriate topic. If you are depressed I think it makes it much harder to get out there and do things as you probably won't be feeling good about yourself.

True Blossomhill.
And they are generally the people who feel that life is passing them by.

I'm on my own week in week out and have been for years,which is precisely why I have a job/hobbies and study.

If i didn't would be a basket case frankly.