14yr old DD inpatient unit?!

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My 14yr old DD is just 6 stone 10 pounds and 5ft 4. She's painfully thin and has Orthorexia which has now been diagnosed with anorexia. I do my very best to make sure she eats enough calories and today I forced her to eat ice cream which she scream and cried about..
She's lost 4 pounds in just 2 days..
Her doctor told her if she went below 7 stone she would be send to an inpatient unit.
As much as I don't want her to go I have no other option as I know if she remains at home she will die eventually and if since she's lost a stocking 2 stone in the past 6 months if she hits 6 stone or below I hobestly think she will pass away. 14 just seems so young to get her life ruined as I know by her attending a mental health inpatient 24/7 unit will be on her records whilst trying to get a job ect. How bad are these inpatient units for under 18's, does anyone have any first hand experience of what they are like or how the child's day is planned out roughly?
I'm in utter shock that this has happened and DD has had spells of depression on and off for the past 2 months.
14 seems so young to be sent away from home.

I can't imagine how hard it must be to see your DD like this. All I can do is reassure you that her needing inpatient help won't stop her from ever doing the job she wants. I currently work with vulnerable adults and people with learning disabilities etc and I've been sectioned before, including under a 136.

agree with jen the fact you've been sectioned doesn't show up on DBS checks, including if you've been kept by the police.

I've worked in an adolescent inpatient unit, not specifically for eating disorders but there were lots of kids with them there. As others have said usual routine was school in the morning and afternoon, group and individual therapy sessions and an evening activity. All meals are taken in a group and supervised and the kids with eating disorders are supervised for 30 minutes after eating.

The staff were all fantastic and really cared about the kids, if it's what your daughter needs then it's the best place for her.

If you look at the Physical/Mental disorder section then I'm afraid you will see that you will need to declare it ....depending on how honest you want to be

www.visabureau.com/america/esta-application-information.aspx

I've seen those criteria before. You would need to declare a mental disorder if you met the criteria they set, whether or not you had ever sectioned or admitted, if you wanted to be truthful. She only needs to declare it if she is currently having symptoms or they are likely to recur. Whether OP's DD meets these criteria is not one and the same thing as whether she's been admitted to hospital or sectioned. Being admitted or sectioned is not strictly relevant to that question (although arguably having been admitted or sectioned is evidence that a person has in the past had a disorder that meets the criteria).

^With regard to physical or mental disorders, answer 'Yes' to this question if:

(a) You currently have a physical or mental disorder and a history of behavior associated with the disorder that may pose or has posed a threat to your property, safety or welfare or that of others; or

(b) You had a physical or mental disorder and a history of behavior associated with the disorder that has posed a threat to your property, safety or welfare or that of others and the behavior is likely to recur or lead to other harmful behavior.^

I take from that that if OP's DD wasn't currently ill, and her eating disorder wasn't likely to recur, she would be able to answer no.

Agree with danger and Jen, a section including 136 won't come up on a DBS.

Anyway, it's not helpful to OP to state negatives when she is panicking. Her DD will be fine. Even if she did declare, no-one is going to think less of her! Lived experience would be a positive if she wanted to work with young people with mh issues in future.

I had anorexia as a teen. I wasn't an in patient but had regular out patient appointments, attended group sessions, dietician, psych, etc. I got a teaching degree and have just finished a post grad in a psychotherapy field.

Friend who I knew at same time from the group sessions is now an NHS psychologist.

Another is a nursery nurse.

Declaring is only if you want to go to America! I've never wanted to go, so it's never been an issue in my life 😂 but I know other people that I've been in hospital with have travelled the world including the U.S./ emigrated to other countries so it can't be that bad. Lots of people have issues with their mental health at some point in their life just as people have issues with their physical health. Generally for most people these issues are a temporary thing. Hope your daughter is doing ok OP.

My DS was in an inpatient adolescent MH unit fir 7 months with depression 2 years ago. I didn't want him to be admitted but I was wrong.

He went to America this summer, no problem with ESTA or insurance. It's not going to be a problem for your DD in future.