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I've looked for a differnet topic to put this in because I don't want to be here but I am feeling sad so it's got to go here.......

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LadyTophamHatt · 08/02/2007 20:30

I'm so pathetic.

Dh is going away this weekend, taking ds1+2 with him. Ds3 was going to go too but we decided for him to stay here with me and Ds4 instead.

anyway, Dh wants to take ds3 now and I don't wnat him to go be because I don't want to be here alone with ds4.

I'll be lonely here all weekend with just ds4 for company so I want Ds3 to stay here with me.
Yes, it'll be lovely having a some peace and quiet but I just don't wantto be here alone.

There no-one I can visit wothout driving for over an hour which isn't a good idea when I'm up half the night with a 3 week old.
I know I won't sleep well while they're away because I'll worry about what they're doing. I won't be able to catch up on sleep during the day either for the same reason....

Bloody hell, my life really does evolve around the kids and Dh and if they're not here I have nothing at all to do.

How pathetic is that??

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LadyTophamHatt · 09/02/2007 16:03

Bloody hell, they've only been gone 10 mintues and I'm twiddling my thumbs already.

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Cloudhopper · 09/02/2007 16:08

Make a list of things that you would like to do while they are away.

Perhaps catching up on romantic chick flicks that no-one else would want to watch?

Reading a novel - one you've always wanted to - War & Peace?

Maybe pop out to the supermarket now and get yourself some treat foods to cook while they are away?

(I am thinking up things I am going to do next week when dh is away)

Pamina · 09/02/2007 16:13

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whatkatydidntdo · 09/02/2007 16:13

buy a big glossy mag and a jar of hot choc (with squirty cream if liked)

catch up on any unanswered threads

marthamoo · 09/02/2007 16:14

Doesn't sound at all weird to me - I went away for the weekend when ds2 was little and was shocked at how much I missed them - I had an actual ache in my chest.

Think of this as the chance to have some time with just you and ds4 - he won't get much of that with 3 big brothers. And - when he's sleeping - it's some time for you, which you won't get much of with four little boys.

They will be back before you know it.

dinny · 09/02/2007 16:21

whereabouts do you live-ish, LTH? can you maybe go somewhere with the baby you can't usually go? like gallery/shopping/cafe etc?

Whoooosh · 09/02/2007 16:34

Yes-where are you LTH?

I have a similar situation in that dd and I are on our own this weekend and I am dreading it.

snowisgone · 09/02/2007 17:35

I am on myown too this week-end with 3 and 5 year old. snow has been great but it is very difficult just after having baby. Cut yourself some slack. spoil yourself rotten bailies ice-cream whatever put some photo's in albums all those wee jobs you never have time to do. lol have a lovely week-end and check out that cafe you've been dying to go into but have been unable to with all your wee ones. good luck hope it goes quick for you lol

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LadyTophamHatt · 09/02/2007 18:12

I'm sure I said I wouldn't be able to catch up on sleep while they were away!!

Just had a lovely snooze on the sofa with George acting as a thermal blanket on me!

Tomorrow, I will go shopping AND have lunch out somewhere nice(ie not a sandwich bought to eat wlaking along) with just my baby.

I told Dh to bring home something nice for me but incase he doesn't I'll buy something too

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WideWebWitch · 09/02/2007 19:36

Oh I'm glad it's going ok LTH, maybe the worry was worse than the reality of it? I hope so.

Whoooosh · 10/02/2007 14:34

So how was your lunch LTH?

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LadyTophamHatt · 10/02/2007 14:45

Well, the morning was going so well.

We survived the night alone, I managed to get a shower will Ds4 had a little snooze and we were all set to hit the shops by 9:45am.

Had a fight with the carseat trying to get it into Dh's car but finally got it in properly after about 15 mintues and 9,000 attempts.

Then, guess what??

The fu*king thing wouldn't start!
It's dead on the drive way now so we didn't get to the shops, I didn't get lunch out and I didn't buy myslef anything nice.
Ended up walking to Morrisons in town and buying a baguette and some pate for lunch.

Pissed off would be an understatment.

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FluffyMummy123 · 10/02/2007 14:45

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hunkermunker · 10/02/2007 14:48

Oh darling

Do you have AA cover? Get them to come out and think about where you're going tomorrow (or later this afternoon if you can play the "oh poor me I have a tiny baybee" card).

Huge hugs - will be around later if you fancy a natter - are you on MSN?

Lots of love x x x x x

FluffyMummy123 · 10/02/2007 14:48

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hunkermunker · 10/02/2007 14:50

Fishy... I feel huggy today...

{{{{{{{CODDY}}}}}}}

FluffyMummy123 · 10/02/2007 14:52

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LadyTophamHatt · 10/02/2007 14:52

I think DH might have tampered with the car so that I could't go out and abuse his credit card while they're all away

DS4 is FAB, by far the best behaved of all 4

where have you been anyway, surley not doing RL?? isn't it a bit scary out there???

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LadyTophamHatt · 10/02/2007 14:55

LOL at me coming over all odd...like that would ever happen!!

I shall abuse his credit card from the comfort of this (uncomfortable) chair.

Can't be faffed to go out again now.

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naughtymummy · 10/02/2007 15:10

Am also home alone DH went skiing for a week this am. Have DS (2.10) and DD 4m with me currently trying persuade DS he needs to go to the park but will be back later as am am sad and have no life if you want a chat.

FluffyMummy123 · 10/02/2007 15:16

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MABS · 10/02/2007 15:41

LadyT -any chance you could escape to actually meet us 25 Feb for lunch? sorry you are feelin bit down.

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LadyTophamHatt · 10/02/2007 15:56

Oh God, Mabs...are you sure you want me???
I've lost count how many times I said I'd come and then couldn't

I'd love too although will have to let you know as DH has his diary with him so not sure if he's about or not.....and I'm deffo not bringing 4 DS's with me!!!

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MABS · 10/02/2007 16:20

of course, we would all love you to come! everyone knows how things come up at last minute etc. It'd be great to meet you.

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