Hello.
I've recently come out of hospital, I was in (voluntarily)because I had severe depression. I'm doing much better now. My ex has the kids, and is reluctant to give them back, or to give me much contact with them at all.
When it came to signing consent to share information forms, I said I didn't want to share information with anyone without my say so. My thinking being that I didn't want my ex being able to nose about in what I see as my private matters. He's a bit of a power freak. He likes to be 'above' me. I gave permission to talk to my ex about my care as far as it involved the children (who were in my care most of the time prior to hospitalisation) and that was it.
Since I've been out, he hasn't been happy with the MH team saying that it is fine for me to gradually increase the amount of contact I have with the kids. He wants details. He wants to know about my 'treatment and prognosis'. I have said that if he has any questions he can ask me directly. I told him that if there were any concerns about my ability to care for the children, he would have been the first to know as the professionals would have told him as he has 50% parental responsibility in law. He's getting his solicitor to send letters to mine saying he wants more info from my consultant etc and it's all a bit ridiculous. I think I am being completely reasonable in thinking that my medical information is my private business for me to divulge as I see fit and digging my heels in? I don't know about his medical issues, and in fact I don't know anything about his life at all as he is a compulsive liar! Or am I being a bit of an obstinate donkey?