My Wedding

[bride2be]

I'll try not to confuse everyone.
I was due to get married on 28th july,07 my 2nd time and i wanted a church wedding, so the church is booked, car, reception, dress, photographer, but i am a registered childminder and have been for 2yrs and i have had so many people ripping me off and not paying me i have lost count, i have bent over backwards for people, having there children later than i should and sometimes not charging them but to cut a long story short we have been ripped off about £3000 over the 2yrs, i knew we were struggling with the wedding and when people weren't paying me that has not helped one bit because the money we were saving has gone on living, i think people thought because my fiance works we didn't need the money, but we have 3 teenage girls as well as ourselves.
Well the turning point came on Saturday when someone else failed to pay us and we sat down and decided we couldn't afford to get married, we can't cut back anymore or i will end up getting married in a black bag, family can't help they don't have the money, but i am heart broken 18 months of saving for nothing, i have started a new job with an agency but it still won't bring in the money we need, we are now looking at getting married at gretna not what i want at all, i just wish i could name and shame all the people that have failed to pay me or give me 4 weeks notice, i have 3 school age children i watch now and i won't be taking on anymore the parents of the children i watch pay me on time all the time, but it is the rest of the people that has put me off being a childminder for the rest of my life.
Sorry it's long.

Oh that's sad, I dont' unerstand people who don't value a good CM .

If there's any one ro two with big arrears, can you not pursue through small claims? The CAB will advise

That is really awful that non-payment is so bad - I can't believe people do it when they are happy to leave their most precious possessions in your care!

But I really don't think you should let it stop you getting married if you really want to be married. Why don't you re-think things again? Our wedding cost less than £1,000 but it was FANTASTIC fun and a great time was had by all. Our reception was held in the function room of a pub but it was a posh one and looked gorgeous and people had a whale of a time.

It doesn't have to be expensive to be good fun.

And to be brutally honest most people's weddings are ALL THE SAME....the same sort of dress and suits, the same venue decorated the same way, the same food, the same layout of the day - speeches, YAWN.....why not think outside the box and use this as an opportunity to do something a little different and more fun?

Think B2B was so fed up she posted twice - other thread here