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My Wedding

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bride2be · 19/12/2006 23:07

I'll try not to confuse everyone.
I was due to get married on 28th july,07 my 2nd time and i wanted a church wedding, so the church is booked, car, reception, dress, photographer, but i am a registered childminder and have been for 2yrs and i have had so many people ripping me off and not paying me i have lost count, i have bent over backwards for people, having there children later than i should and sometimes not charging them but to cut a long story short we have been ripped off about £3000 over the 2yrs, i knew we were struggling with the wedding and when people weren't paying me that has not helped one bit because the money we were saving has gone on living, i think people thought because my fiance works we didn't need the money, but we have 3 teenage girls as well as ourselves.
Well the turning point came on Saturday when someone else failed to pay us and we sat down and decided we couldn't afford to get married, we can't cut back anymore or i will end up getting married in a black bag, family can't help they don't have the money, but i am heart broken 18 months of saving for nothing, i have started a new job with an agency but it still won't bring in the money we need, we are now looking at getting married at gretna not what i want at all, i just wish i could name and shame all the people that have failed to pay me or give me 4 weeks notice, i have 3 school age children i watch now and i won't be taking on anymore the parents of the children i watch pay me on time all the time, but it is the rest of the people that has put me off being a childminder for the rest of my life.
Sorry it's long.

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 19/12/2006 23:10

oh b2b

There are ways to get round this I'm sure.

Have you the savings in place at all - whats paid for?

Can you get a small loan or pay by c/card and then transfer the balance to a 0% card and pay off slowly?

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bride2be · 19/12/2006 23:23

We were trying to stay out of debt as we might not be able to make repayments, we have put more or less half down on averything but still £2000 short, i haven't stopped crying in days this was my dream but cheap wedding, feels like it was all a waste, it was money down the drain.

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shosha · 19/12/2006 23:31

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caffeinequeen · 19/12/2006 23:40

Aw Bride2Be - don't be sad. You CAN get married and have the day you want without feeling like you've cut corners. here's a thread
and another
and another one
And LOADS of people on here (myself included) will have lots of tips on how to save some money.
There's still time to get out of more expensive contracts (more than 6 months notice so shouldn't be too bad) - photographers can be very very pricey for example.
Have to go to bed now but will check back in the morning - you can have a lovely wedding without spending LOADS!
in place of

caffeinequeen · 19/12/2006 23:41

OH and just read properly - £2000 isn't impossible in six and a half months - get onto ebay and down the Car Boot sale!

choosyfloosy · 19/12/2006 23:49

how completely miserable for you.

i don't know anything about anything, but have you tried the Small Claims Court? sorry if you already have.

you've got a right to that money.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 20/12/2006 00:06

oooh yes - raise funds via ebay.

caffeinequeen · 20/12/2006 13:00

B2B - where are you? Hope you're feeling a little less fed up today. There is so much support here on MN - and I'm sure that if you think outside the box as suggested on your other thread you can have a lovely wedding without spending a fortune.
Another to keep you cheery.

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bride2be · 20/12/2006 20:34

Hi i have tried to take a few people to the small claims court but they always seem to get out of it one way or another i even have one that lives practically across the road from me.
We have sat down and we have decided so far to get married at gretna the pictures look nice on the internet, i don't know anyone that has got married there and any family that wants to come will have to pay to get there, sounds harsh but both my parents have cars and drive so not a problem my side, and somewhere afterwards.
Thankyou to everyone that has replied on here, it is nice to know people care [

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twoplusone · 21/12/2006 06:00

Just a thought... if you are going to get married in Gretna.. but want a big service etc.. why dont you do the gretna wedding then save all year then for your first anniversary do a church blessing with photos, disco reception..ect...This way you get to re wear your dress!!
Good luck.

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bride2be · 21/12/2006 09:29

We know if we don't do it next year as planned we'll never ever have the money to do it as between us we have 4 girls, so money is always used elsewhere, we were maybe thinking of cutting out the reception that would save about £550, we are going to see the vicar on Saturday and take it from there, but at the moment it will be more likely to be gretna at the mill forge.
I only wish money grew on trees

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bride2be · 27/12/2006 21:57

Thankyou to everyone for there advice, we have decided to have the reception in the church hall which is quite a few hundred cheaper and we may have to take out a small loan but with me working now it means we can afford to make repayments, thanks again.
Wishing you all a happy new year

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PeckaRolloverAgain · 27/12/2006 22:02

Hey!!!

This could be me!

Seriously.

18 months ago I had a lovely "proper" wedding booked and we decided we just couldnt afford it. Was gutted.

Im a childminder too with same problems.

I got married (same number of guests etc, same dress, lovely venue) at gretna green on teh 16th july last year

It was BRILLIANT.

Everyone still talks about my wedding as one of the best they have ever been to.

I am so grateful we couldnt afford the original wedding as I wouldnt want to change a thing.

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bride2be · 29/12/2006 17:59

Hi glad everything worked out for you in the end, we are having our chuch wedding but the reception will be in the church hall and there is no alcohol allowed
then afterwards it is in the pub it makes me so mad that parents cannot pay there childminder what do they think we live on!!!! fresh air!
Apologisies to the decent ones.
Feeling much better now i know what's happening roll on 28th July

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