Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

Mental health

Mumsnet hasn't checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you have medical concerns, please seek medical attention.

Flip

1 2

Original poster

feel all alone..

31 replies

twoplusone · 17/12/2006 19:55

Just need to type really. I feel so alone and isolated. I suppose I am in a way. I am an army wife hubby in Afghan at the mo been there a few weeks. We moved from Cyprus to germany on the 2 nd nov and he deployed on the 22nd nov. In between that he had to go away on courses. And we found out I am pg with number 3 We have a 10yr dd and a 2.5 ds. I am 10 wks pg.
I do suffer from depression I suppose think the dr called it a psychothermatic personality.. most of the time I have oit under control but these last few weeks I am spending more and more time just crying for no reason, the slightest thing sets me off. Hormones probably arent helping at the mo neither.

I had visitors last night my aunt her dh and dd (7 months) which was lovely thy left as lunch time today and i feel really low now..

I just want my DH home....

OP posts:

Scootergirl · 17/12/2006 19:57

I keep trying to ctach catch you on other threads - I'm on JHQ!

Scootergirl · 17/12/2006 19:58

Sorry - that was v short message before! You're on Elmpt aren't you? Have you been to any of the stuff they're doing over there for the wee ones?
It must be even harder for you cos most of the Signals lot from over there seem to be back don't they?

Original poster

twoplusone · 17/12/2006 20:00

hello there, that is the only place I have ventured too..
How long have you been there? That has made me feel a little bit better knowing someone is close by..

OP posts:

Scootergirl · 17/12/2006 20:01

We moved here in June with DD 2 1/2 and DS 8 weeks and then the bugger went to Kabul four weeks later. Sorry for swearing but it really is shit, isn't it?
Whereabouts is he and when's he due home?

Original poster

twoplusone · 17/12/2006 20:02

yeah I go to the mother and toddler groups and took both kids to the parties...

I think alot of it is my own fault.. there are a few girls here that I knew in cyprus but we werent pally pally out there we talked etc and feel a bit of a user if I started going to there houses all the time. I do see them once a week. TBH I think at the mo i am just really feeling sorry for myself.. need to give my head a shake really!!

OP posts:

Original poster

twoplusone · 17/12/2006 20:03

same boat as me love... he isi n HArat.. he should be back feb bub tbh not holding my breath..

How you coping..

OP posts:

Scootergirl · 17/12/2006 20:04

There's nothing wrong with feeling sorry for yourself in the rubbish situation we're in - I did! When's he back?

Original poster

twoplusone · 17/12/2006 20:04

has your hubby just got back then or is he due back..

OP posts:

Scootergirl · 17/12/2006 20:05

Sorry - cross posted! He's due back this week but his boss has just been sacked so I'm not holding my breath. The army is v good at suddenly springing things on you... Is he part of ISAF? Cos their handover is Feb 9 so unless he's attached to the next one he really should be back.

Original poster

twoplusone · 17/12/2006 20:08

TBH dont nknow who is attached to, just know that once the handover to the americans has been done he can come home..

OP posts:

Original poster

twoplusone · 17/12/2006 20:09

you must find it really hard with two little children..

I am annoyed at myself as normally cope really well, I am blaming the pg ..

OP posts:

Scootergirl · 17/12/2006 20:10

I'm pretty sure they're all due out of there by the beginning of Feb.
Our welcome home party is on Feb 9 and there'll be a few pissed-off wives if their husbands aren't back by then!
Are you one of the only ones over there whose DH is still away? There's bloody loads of us over here if you want to come on over to a toddler group or something for a proper moan and a restorative cake or two...

Scootergirl · 17/12/2006 20:12

TBH the first bit is always the worst. I was so rubbish when he first went that the HV had me down as possible post-natal depression and kept coming round and patting me... My two obviously have no sense of personal space so spend my whole time being climbed on and DS is going through some major separation anxiety so do a lot of lugging him around. House is a tip as it's hard to clear up with yelling child attached to you

Original poster

twoplusone · 17/12/2006 20:16

No there is still loads of blokes away on camp.

I think at the mother and toddler it is 50/50 split
TBH dont really go into it there as there are a few who are always going on about having to do everything yourself etc. I know I am whinging on here but i do think on a camp l;ike this and JHQ I would say throughout the course of the year at least 80% have to do it.. so I tend not to moan too much.

Whendo you have your mums and tots and where.

I hate driving over here, need to go for a drive tommorrow and find where I can get my tyre fixed!!

OP posts:

Original poster

twoplusone · 17/12/2006 20:18

DS also seems to have picked up on daddy beoing away, (he was 2 in June) I think they are just at the age where they can actually think "hey wheres daddy he hasnt been here in a while and I want him!!"

Getting him out of the bath to night I said "lets go see daddy". I dont even know why it came out I must have been thinkning of him... DS was "YEAHHHH DADDY" bless him so I had to explain..

OP posts:

Scootergirl · 17/12/2006 20:22

There's a couple of really nice mums and tots groups at the ARRC WElfare Centre. The Monday one has stopped for Christmas but there's one on Wednesday at 10am called Noah's Nippers (Arrc... Ark... gettit? Took me bloody ages!)
My DD who's just gone three kept asking for Daddy too, mostly when she was in trouble for something, to the point where I snapped "Yes well I want Daddy too but whinging about it isn't going to get the army to send him back" and then felt really bad for AGES!

Original poster

twoplusone · 17/12/2006 20:34

Bless her..
The difference though it has made just knowing I wasnt the only one to move then hubby be deployed makes me feel a bit better. the army really are w***s sometimes.....

OP posts:

Scootergirl · 17/12/2006 20:42

Agreed! And it makes it worse when you get all the guff about how they appreciate what we're doing and how we keep them going on operations - don't care, just send them home! It must be even worse for you cos Elmpt is quite a small camp. At least JHQ is huge! You're much nearer lovely Roermond though and there must be a bus from where you are. Go and spend that LSSA!

Original poster

twoplusone · 17/12/2006 20:48

We havent even had our LOA yet let alone the LSSA!!!!!

Jan should be a good shopping month!!

OP posts:

Scootergirl · 17/12/2006 20:50

Lovely sales in Roermond... see I hope you're feeling better already! We're making Christmas baubles at toddler group on Wednesday (15 kids and a load of glitter - how can you miss it?) if you want to come over?

Original poster

twoplusone · 17/12/2006 20:51

Ok thanks -were is it in regards tot he naafi

OP posts:

Scootergirl · 17/12/2006 20:55

Straight down Queens Rd - follow the signs for the American PX then go through the traffic lights (that's where the welfare centre is but it's one way) and down past the police station on left to the turn for the PRI shop and Little Theatre. Turn right then right again at the crossroads and the ARRC Welfare Centre is on that road. There's a car park round the back of the nursery or you can park on the road.
I know it's hard to walk into a group where you don't know anyone but it's a really friendly lot with a mix of soldiers and officers wives (don't know which you are but there's both!) I have blown my car up while DH is away or could come and see you over there

Scootergirl · 17/12/2006 21:05

Sorry but must go - DS is awake for the first of many times tonight and I really need some sleep. I hope you're feeling better. I'll check this thread again tomorrow and maybe talk then.xxx

Original poster

twoplusone · 17/12/2006 22:17

Thank you, I do feel much better talking to you, It has helped alot.
Hard to write really as emotions seem wiered when I see them written down dont sound logical!!
You do feel like you are the only person even though you know your not!!

Hopefully I will see you wednesday... (if I get my car fixed....)

OP posts:

Original poster

twoplusone · 20/12/2006 06:35

scootergirl- I am afraid i cant make it this morning as my aunty is popping in on her way to calais, (from Guterslough), I wuold like to meet up after xmas if you are interested though..

OP posts:

Flip

1 2