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How Do You Know If You Have PND, Or Just Normal Depression?

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QuootiepiesChristmasName · 13/12/2006 20:53

and would it matter to medication? Do you get different medication for PND than normal depression? Today I realised I definatly am not right... ive havd depression before, and its been coming back after the birth in the normal way, but the last few days ive even lost intrest in DS Normally im fine with everything to do with him, but ive been finding myself sighing when he's crying at night, even got a little stroppy when we hardly slept last night and kicked the duvet off in abit of a temper Im not usually stroppy at all. I havent got the energy to be all happy, and cheery and when hes bored, singing and playing around... Im starting to do the bare minmum with him and I feel such a bad mum. I can't even be bothered with christmas, if it wasn't for DS I wouldn't bother at all. The worst thing is I am so so so tired all the time, really tired. When I go to bed, I can't sleep though. I don't know whether this is PND, or just normal depression back.

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merrylissiemas · 13/12/2006 20:55

quootie how old is ds?

Emskilou · 13/12/2006 21:03

Hi, I'm so sorry to hear you are feeling so low and can totally sympathise with you. When I suffered with PND I was told that pnd is when you are diagnosed as depressed within a year of having a child and is not different to 'normal' depression. I didnt take medication so I am not sure what if any difference there is, I went to cbt instead which was so very helpful and changed everything for me.

You are not by any means a bad mum, just human who needs sleep and gets low at times, try not to feel bad about that I feel like all too often. When you go to bed can you not sleep because your mind is running on overtime? Have you tried writing things down that are on your mind and leaving it beside your bed so you can deal with it in the morning? I found that helped? Or how about having a bath so you can totally relax before bed? Not sure if any of these things will help you I hope they do or you can just chat to me if you like, I have been there and I am on the other side now so maybe can help a little?

merrylissiemas · 13/12/2006 21:08

ikwym, i'm terrified that ds will remember how i was with him. i couldn't let anyone else hold him at 1st because i was so worried that they would guess how i felt about him, then i resented him for being the reason that i wasn't lisa anymore. my counsellor says that pnd and depression go hand in hand and most depressive episodes have a trigger. see your gp, tell him how you feel

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QuootiepiesChristmasName · 13/12/2006 21:43

DS is 8 months....

Ive tried CBT before, and found it awful, think medication works best with me. Hard bit is finding one compatible with BFing. I think ill see GP tomorrow, I guess the sooner im on ADs the better really. Its hard to think its just an illness, I feel its "me" being so unmotivated, and disintrested. I know whats triggered it, its more than likely stress - some reason I can't deal wiht it very well! Thanks for the replies... I was worried id be misdiagnosed with PND if it was depression, or vice versa and be put on the wrong medication... I felt so pleased I didnt get PND, now I feel a failure

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merrylissiemas · 13/12/2006 21:47

tbh, i felt like that from day 1. it took 6 years ttc then i was in and out of hosp. i couldn't go into labour myself, couldn't deliver, couldn't bf, back in hosp for 3 months after..... you are not a failure, you are human, and your children need a human mother. there is no shame in needing help. the only shame would be if you didn't recognise it

merrylissiemas · 13/12/2006 21:47

tbh, i felt like that from day 1. it took 6 years ttc then i was in and out of hosp. i couldn't go into labour myself, couldn't deliver, couldn't bf, back in hosp for 3 months after..... you are not a failure, you are human, and your children need a human mother. there is no shame in needing help. the only shame would be if you didn't recognise it

merryberry · 13/12/2006 22:02

also get your thyroid checked because your tiredness and detachment symptoms were mine - my thyroid had packed up.

it's quite common for it to not work properly after childbirth. make sure you get that ruled out as well? good luck, hope you have some glimmers of brightness as you figure things out, xx

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QuootiepiesChristmasName · 13/12/2006 22:04

Thanks I was going to go to the GP today, but really could face it. Hopefully ill be ok to go tomorrow

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merryberry · 15/12/2006 21:34

I hope you got on OK today

rockinrobin · 18/12/2006 07:39

I had my dd 18mths ago,I was told I had PND and got AD'S which I took for about 6 mths and then I stopped as I felt fine, I know I shouldn't have just stopped but I had no side affects!
I had put on a stone and a half which I still can't shift.
Now I'm depreesed again tearful all the time and stroppy and picking on dp,I don't know if its just normal depression and I really don't want go on AD'S again as I'm depressed enough about the weight I've put on, could anyone tell me what st johns wort is like? I hate feeling so bloody tired and grumpy it makes me feel even worse and yet I just can't stop.

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QuootiepiesChristmasName · 18/12/2006 07:41

Didnt go to GP - bypassed that and went to A & E after an overdose. Its not depression, or PND - its post traumatic stress disorder. Hopefully going to GP today though xxx

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winterpimms · 18/12/2006 11:57

Thinking of you Quootie - hope you get on ok today. Will you hear about the counselling today?

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Quootiepie · 18/12/2006 12:06

no - receptionist hasnt sorted the mail yet at GPs. And to be honest, im not sure I can be fucked anymore.

merrylissiemas · 18/12/2006 12:13

how are you doing today quootie? so sorry you've been so low. if you need a chat my e-mail is [email protected]. thinking of you hun

Quootiepie · 18/12/2006 12:16

hard to say - up and down. Thankyou xxx

NotSoSilentMhamaiNight · 18/12/2006 12:22

Hi Quootie, I know you said you wouldn't cat but please feel free to cat me if you change your mind. x

winterpimms · 18/12/2006 12:25

Quootie- the nice man you talked things over with, was that at the hospital? Did he leave a contact number?

I'm worried Quootie - do you need to talk to someone now?

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Quootiepie · 18/12/2006 12:34

he didnt leave a number, no. Im OK at the moment, ive had my cry. Mamama stayed with me until the early hours, so im not alone... (on MSN) Its hard to talk on here now...

Quootiepie · 18/12/2006 12:34

thankyou Mhaimi - I will if I feel wobbly again xxx

NotSoSilentMhamaiNight · 18/12/2006 12:50

Honestly pet not just when your wobbly anytime oh darlin please accept a big warm comforting cuddle blanket from me and wrap it snugly around you and if that sounds cheesy to anyone then tough lots and lot of [hugs x

Quootiepie · 18/12/2006 12:51

thank you so much xxx

winterpimms · 18/12/2006 12:53

Pleased that you are talking on MSN.

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Quootiepie · 18/12/2006 12:56

thankyou xxx

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