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So i've got PND, what now?

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staceym11 · 12/12/2006 13:19

I went to see the HV this morning and went through how im feeling and she's diagnosed PND, surprise surprise, now iv gotta go to the docs for anti-depressants apparantly.

Finding this all very strange, had depression when i was younger and i recognised the symptoms but i thought that was all behind me and now here i am again. wanting to cut myself, cry constantly, sleep all day and snapping at my toddler.

please tell me theres a light at the end of the tunnel, iv found it before but i just dotn seem to see this ever stopping! i cant cope with 2 kids, im not capable, but i love them so much (however much i feel i could kill them by the end of the day)

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flimflam · 12/12/2006 13:24

You're well on your way to getting better. The biggest leap is admitting how you are feeling and getting some help. It really will all get better. Good luck x

lulumama · 12/12/2006 13:26

agree with flimflam...starting to address it is a really big step...have been where you are...and did make it through...ADs and some excellent counselling..asking for help.....it is ok, it will get better, you will get there x

merrylissiemas · 12/12/2006 13:28

it will get better, i promise, don't expect miracles, just keep reminding yourself that "this too will pass"

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staceym11 · 12/12/2006 13:37

iv gotta go babies screaming again,. gotta get out this afternoon or im gunna do somehting stupid, will head to my mums. thanks for the hugs, much needed i assure you!

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fussymummy · 12/12/2006 23:07

Hi staceym11 Have you booked your appointment with your GP yet?

See them as soon as you can.

How old were you when you had depression before?

Do you have any family or friends who could help with the children?

If things get too bad with the kids, please call the HV or GP a.s.a.p.

PND is awful to go through, i've suffered for years.

Keep in touch, you'll get lots of support on MN.

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staceym11 · 13/12/2006 12:23

just got an appointment for tomo eve with gp.

i was 12-17 when i suffered from depression before.

my mother in law has dd today so i only have the baby, which is helpful and iv got my mum visiting on fri and a HV visit tomo so i should be ok, still feel useless!

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fussymummy · 13/12/2006 12:51

Stacey, you WILL be ok.

You have 2 kids to take care of, you'll be ok for them! As well as for yourself.

You got through it before!!

We can all support you as well.

So pleased you have doc appointment.

How's the little ones colic?

Hope it's improved.

There's nothing worse than when you feel like shit a baby just screams!!

It's not babys fault.

I hope your HV is helping all she can.

Keep her visits regular, you need support.

My youngst is 3 and my HV still comes round to see how i am.

Keep in touch and don't forget to get DP to help.

He might not like the constant screamimg, but then who does???

Get him to amuse the older one while you deal with baby.

After all, they're his kids as well!!!

aza123 · 14/12/2006 10:20

Hi there..first timer so not sure what to do??

LUCYMARIE · 14/12/2006 10:39

message to stacy-

Just to say that you will get over your depression, my mum had depression bad when me and my brother were young, but managed to over come it with help and remaining positive about things, hoping you will too,

Monkeytrousers · 14/12/2006 10:41

Taking ad's is the best thing you can do - take them for as long as you need them.

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staceym11 · 14/12/2006 12:27

had a hv visit today and shes suggested a young mums group thats starting up, homestart help to look after dd 1 morning/afternoon a week, getting the ad's from the doc this afternoon and taking them and hving follow up visits regularily.

i wanna get through this but dont feel that dh understands at all. it makes me feel worse, are all men useless?!

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fussymummy · 14/12/2006 21:44

Stacey

So pleased that you're getting some help.

You'll feel so differently in a few weeks.

I think most (not all) men don't want to understand.

My partner will expect me to listen to any problems or ailments that he may have, but when it comes to me, forget it!!!!!

He doesn't like to think that i'm ill.

Finds it hard to accept.

You will get through this.

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staceym11 · 15/12/2006 09:25

thanks fussymummy, started on the anti ds last night, so maybe il feel more normal after xmas, at least iv got dh home over xmas, and im not quite so bad when im not on my own!

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merrylissiemas · 15/12/2006 09:28

dh was the 1 who suggested that i might have pnd and i was FURIOUS with him for even thinking it. now tho, its 18m later and he "just wants me to get better fgs"

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staceym11 · 15/12/2006 10:03

well dh just doesnt get it at all, he doesnt understand why im stressed (the fact that dd doesnt ever stop talking or running or climbing, and iv got a 6 week old to consider as well?!?!

and yet he tells me that he cant handle both of them at once so i have to have the baby at all times?! if he cant cope for an hour how does he expect me to cope all week and most weekends?!?!

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merrylissiemas · 15/12/2006 13:03

i think it's mainly out of fear. pnd alters the person you are and it's hard for dp's to accept that for a while you WONT be the woman he fell in love with. but when you come out the other end you are (at the risk of sounding touchy feely) a better person. i think sometimes you have to hit the bottom before you can appreciate the view from the top. when i told dh how i felt he was scared that he was losing me and would never get me back, but i'm slowly returning and i think your dh is trying to ignore the changes to your life because maybe he's worried that the reason you are changing/unhappy is because of him. 2 of you made the baby after all. am i making any sense at all?

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