How bad do you have to be to be put on meds?

[Hodgebodge]

Bg: I've had four early MCs over the past 18 months. I've had issues like low iron levels and things although they should be normal now. I'm due to see a specialist fairly soon over the MCs.

Overall I'm increasingly irritable and moody, it's hard to concentrate on things, and sometimes I feel a bit paranoid too. I seem to be getting headaches all the time and it's all I can do not to snap at people around me and hide away frankly. It's been getting worse for some time now.

I usually love Christmas and I am heartbroken that we're facing another one as normal. I just want to lock myself off from the world and cry for a good few days. Everyone keeps asking about things like decorations and expecting me to be the life and soul of Christmas as usual, and I can't, I just can't fake it.

At what point could or should I ask a doctor for meds? Is this just part of being a regular person going through a bit of a shit time (so meds wouldn't help) or something deeper? I don't want to drag everyone around me down and just feel increasingly sad all the time.

I would certainly talk to your doctor about how you feel. (S)he may suggest other things not just (if at all) meds. Christmas is an incredibly stressful time of year for anyone, especially those with personal / family related issues so they are likely to be used to helping out.
You could also look online and see if your area offers any sort of self referral assistance.

I think that talking therapy as you have been through so much would help. I have only had one pg loss but suffered greatly, I ended up having counselling.

I shut myself away the first Christmas after my loss though I was severely criticised by SIL for wound licking. No harm having a chat to your GP.

Thank you both. Had a massive panic attack last night, have made doctors appointment today. I can't go on like this. Finding it hard to breathe normally, this can't be normal behaviour!

i think actually they give out meds quite freely for even mild depression. I think you do sound depressed, but as you say, is that because of what youre gong through. TTC is often a massive headfuck, not to mention miscarriages, and while antidepressants definitely have their place, do you want to take something that you might then want to come off again when you do conceive?

Have you tried something like agnus castus, whch is a hormone regulator. It actually helped me so much in overcoming my depression naturally (although I have also taken various different antidepressants at other times, with varying levels of success), and im pretty sure its supposed to be good for increasing fertility too

www.herbwisdom.com/herb-agnus-castus.html

If you have the strength but please dont feel obliged let us know how you get on at the Doctors.

At the current time dont put any pressure on yourself if it can be avoided.

Hi all, sorry for not being back yesterday. I had another anxiety attack yesterday where out of nowhere I was convinced my husband had died (no reason, and he hadn't of course, it was very odd). I'm having trouble even now breathing and feel like somethings stuck in my throat all the time. Total madness. There's nothing wrong!

The doctor was very kind, although I wound up crying at her for a while which wasn't good. She's said I can go on to some low-dosage anti-anxiety/anti-depressant medication if I'd like, or use beta-blockers, or try counselling/self-help.

For now I've taken the counselling number she's given me and I'll think about the pills. One of my big anxieties out of nowhere at the moment is feeling that I'm allergic to things like tablets or food, even the stuff I'm used to (I'd be worried about the Angus Castus too I suspect, though I'll google it, thank you for the recommendation).

She also said the pills can cause a good week or two of feeling even more anxious before they balance you out again and yes there could be a pregnancy issue too.

So - I'll try the number. And if this goes on at this level or worse into next week, I'll go back and start some medication. I'm so sick of feeling terrified for no reason, and have huge sympathy to those who've had this long-term.

Anyway, thank you all for being so kind. What a horrible mess our heads can go into eh.

Has anyone taken your bloods to see what and where your hormone levels are at?
The symptons you're describing remind me of when I was trying to conceive, had a miscarriage. My hormone levels were all over the place. I was offered anti depressants but denied them as wanting a baby. Did go for counselling though and that really helped with the anxiety.

Hello Den, thanks for your post. They've checked progesterone at 21 days but nothing else. I'm meeting with a recurrent miscarriage specialist at the end of this week and will ask her about hormones/recommended antidepressants etc.

Had a fairly level (ish) weekend and then another woman in my team at work announced she was pregnant today. Have been just about keeping it together but can't go on like this, so hoping the doctor on Friday will have some advice.

Have also booked a counselling session so hoping that helps too, although I know there are no magic fixes.

Hello Hodgebodge, well done to you for going to see your doc as early as you can. I was told regularly at health check ups over 10 years that I was clinically depressed and I ignored it. Now I have chronic severe depression and anxiety which is much harder to treat after all that time. I have refused meds all along and I'm still refusing them but only because I'm stupid and stubborn. I wish I'd gone and asked for them years ago. Good luck and I hope this is resolved for you soon