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Does one's behaviour affect a tiny baby?

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MummyPossum · 07/12/2006 22:48

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lornaloo · 07/12/2006 22:53

As long as you are there giving him lots of love hugs and kisses he will feel nice and secure. I'm no expert but I don't think you will be damaging him as long as your not leaving him crying for hours or neglecting him in any way. Sounds like you love him to pieces and have bonded with him. So no I would say don't worry yourself I'm sure he is oblivious.

If you are feeling lonely and isolated then perhaps you could try and find a local mother and baby group. Make yourslef go out for a walk with him once a day for some fresh air. I find a nice walk is always a mood lifter.
Sorry to hear your feeling down I don't really know what to say that will help....

controlfreakyturkeyandstuffing · 07/12/2006 22:57

you sound like you could do with some support.... do you have any at the moment??

lornaloo · 07/12/2006 22:58

Yes do you live near family? friends?

jamiesamfreddie · 07/12/2006 22:59

Ds1 is fairly well adjusted I think, but I was a nervous first time mother with him, and so when he cried, I was always 'sympathetic' and would echo in my facial expression and voice how sad he was. With ds2 (and now ds3 at 7 weeks) I'm more inclined to 'jolly them along'. I have strong memories of sitting on the stairs sobbing my eyes out with ds1 crying/screaming in the living room and me not knowing how to comfort him. We got through and I don't think that the effect on him has lasted - though I feel pretty bad about it now. Two months is pretty early for smiles - ds3 has just started smiling, but that means one or two a day only.

I read somewhere recently that it's not the 'high pitched tone of voice' that babies respond so well to - it's any voice where the speaker is smiling. I try to remember that a lot.

I also find (you mention being lonely and isolated) that my babies have loved noise - ds3 now has his best time of the week when we go to a play group for ds2. I've been going for a year, and some weeks I don't talk to anyone very much, but the children love the noise/different toys etc - do try it, even if you have to take a book to help you not feel like you're sat there obviously not talking to anyone. Even better, you might make friends with people in a similar situation...

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