bipolar DH threatening suicide

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I'm so angry I know I shouldn't be, I know this is an illness but I am

He's cut off all forms of contact
Threatening suicide (don't think he actually will attempt but am worried)
Ended our marriage (he'd already moved out but was in the process of moving back in)
Ended our marriage counselling
Threatening to quit his job

Accused me of EA to our DS because I don't want DS sleeping in my bed and keep putting him back in his own bed (he's 3)

And plenty more. And it's all sudden and hurts like hell. I can't go through this again.

I have my own MH battle (OCD, anxiety and depression) and im always left to pick up the pieces for DS and I feel like I fail miserably at it. Seriously wondering if we were kidding ourselves and perhaps DS should go into foster care. I wanted another baby ffs. My time for having one is running out so fast. I need to come to terms that it won't/can't happen and we are screwing up DS

I don't want to do this. I don't want to get up. I don't want to carry on

What if he means it and has killed himself?

I'm so sorry your going through this. It's not your fault and you can't change him. Keep on being a good mum, wanting your DS to sleep in his own bed isn't EA, it's okay to want him to sleep in his own bed. Please try to speak to your GP today and get some support. Can you speak to your H's care team or a family member to alert them to his current mental health crisis?

The only family member he has and is living with is so blind to his MH she won't talk about it or do anything. I gave up on that battle a long time ago. She just pretends it doesn't exist unless he's hospitalised.

Don't see the point in the GP, they just prescribe medication. I pile on weight with it and nothing actually changes. I've asked for counselling but it's always just a few sessions and then dropped. I understand the NHS can't pay for long term therapy but talking small talk for 6 weeks of 45 min sessions doesn't help. I can't afford long term therapy.

I'm sorry your GP isn't more supportive. It might be worth phoning the police to tell them, they will keep an eye out for him. Does H have a MH carer you could contact?

One day at a time. For today just get up, go through the motions. You need to get through the next few days. You will.
Have you explored gentle remedies to get through this? To help restful sleep? (Valerian and passionflowe), to help with anxiety ( L theanine). You need a bit of support. I know a few people ( incl. myself) who are anti- med and have found these remedies very helpful.
You need closure to get better yourself and look after your child. You want him back or ready to move on? Can you cope on your own?

I threatened to get them to do a welfare check yesterday but as he was texting me how shit I am at everything I figured he was ok (hadn't tried harming himself anyway)

I later said I would leave taking DS and move as Id had enough and wanted to escape and he said it was kidnap so I phoned police to check if it would be kidnap. Realistically I can't move, DS is settled and the little stability he does have is from his friends and nursery. I just want to escape this. Want to take DS on holiday and pretend it's not happening. I didn't even give DH name to police but I told him it's not kidnap and that's when he said he was cutting off all contact to "protect himself"

I can't get closure, I never will. Need a complete break for that. It's never going to end.

Every time we try we end up back together. We're both so broken.

Can you organise the chaos? Can you raise a child that way?
There are functioning couples in your situation. Do you have close family to help during accute episodes like this?

No close family to help, totally isolated tbh

I think we have a happy family 10 months of the year - but 2 is hell. It's always extremes

It's always going to be this pattern. Can he recognise this too? Can he recognise when he goes into manic mode? Can you agree to organise your lives around how to manage these episodes along with your GPs, hospital/counsellors etc....?

I don't know if he recognises it, there's always something else to blame - work gets busy for example.

I think I recognise it but don't cope when it happens, the start of it is always where everything is my fault and my most reasonable requests are unreasonable

We stupidly fall off the radar for anyone because he mostly works and I never get quite to the point of needing to be hospitalised so it's always just simmering under the surface but no real 'support' from any services unless hospital is required and that hasn't happened in the last 6 years

I think you need to back away. Stop worrying and making yourself Ill over this man. Have you got any friends nearby? If you are seriously worried he is going to commit suicide, call the police and they will attend with a paramedic. Do not listen to anything he says. Nothing he says at this time is going to be logical or reasonable. I know all this is easy to say and incredibly difficult to do. Focus on you and your son. If you want to pm me you are more than welcome

agree with Christna, you need to focus on you and your son right now and you can think long term when this blows over.
Is there really no one to talk to? Friends? Collegues?
How old is your little one?

im due to go to a court for my pip appeal and help..can some one help me i have bipolar

I hear you op. My dh is wobbling on th precipice. As I am too. Have taken today off to try and get my head straight but I know it won't work. There'll be some other shit to deal with. That I'll end up doing.

Dh was diagnosed at bipolar years ago but he thinks he's been misdiagnosed. I'm beyond caring tbh. I can't carry on anymore and I don't think he can either. I have such a feeling of doom.

Is he definitely diagnosed bipolar? Only this doesn't sound like a manic episode or a depressive episode - it sounds like he's being nasty. I know there are mixed episodes too but again do they come with being a complete bellend to those around you, in this manner?

He's swung round to being all apologetic now. Huge long contemplative messages.

For my DH yes being a bellend does seem to come with his bipolar. He's very manipulative and verbally cruel in lows on the way down and goes above and beyond on the way up trying to redeem himself

I'm really lucky that his episodes are far apart (6 months plus, usually longer but this years been particularly stressful with family bereavement) but when they hit they hit hard

It's hard AlreadyTired, so hard

I was ready to walk away for good two days ago, now I'm rethinking

It's so hard not to take it personally - the bad and the good. I know it's an illness but it's also part of him, it's not going away. One day I will have to accept that.

I've kept busy with my DS(3) and that's got us through the last few days going to various activities locally and meeting up with some of the nursery mums for play dates. Haven't told anyone IRL what's going on so just faking normality

I don't know what a pip is notsure, sorry.

Please, please talk to someone in RL you can trust.

Pip is new dla

My., Dsis has bipolar and has the extreme end of the illness and has been sectioned many times. She is one of the loveliest people you could ever meet. Remember that a person has their personality and then their illness.

I feel so down about the appeal i keep crying

I work too..i keep crying at work and i cant say why ..should i give up and not carry on with the pip appeal...?

Why are you so down about it?