I have 5 children, 31 yo dd,29 yo ds, 24 yo dd, 12 yo dd and 8 yo ds. My 31 and 29 yo have bpd. My 24 yo has odd and I strongly suspect bdd. My 12 yo has gad. I've suffered from health anxiety and depression on and off over the years.
My eldest dd has been through some really tough times but is doing really well now. Her son is on the spectrum and has adhd but he is doing well. My 29 to ds has struggled with life since he was about 3 yo.
I'm certain he has adhd as a child but was never diagnosed despite seeing a child psychologist. He went on to self harm, overdose and become addicted to prescription drugs. He recently served 3 months in prison, he should have been sectioned not thrown into prison.
My 24 yo is never happy, atm she is crying every day. She has a 4 yo dd and I worry about the effect on her. My dd is very unhappy about how she looks, she is actually very pretty. Her main problems are her breast size and her eye that has I kind of droopy lid. ( I never noticed this until she pointed it out to me) she is also very unhappy about where she lives. She has decorated her flat many times in the last 3 years. Her neighbours are a bit of a pain but she can't stand them.
She talks to me about performing surgery on her eyelid herself,she is also about to make herself homeless. She has asked if she can move back into mine but I don't have the room. She asked her dad to take a loan out for her to get a boob job, she said she'd pay it back. He said no. I try to understand and to empathise with her but she gets angry and we usually end up arguing. She has told me numerous times that she would rather be dead than live the way she does. She has also said that her dd would be better off with me or her dad.
She has been on about 4 different anti- d's but none of them agreed with her,she's also had counselling sessions which she does'nt think will help her.
I honestly don't know what to do to help her,I'm at a loss. Anyone have any suggestions?