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Thaigal · 03/12/2006 22:38

My uncle has had a brain tumour for the past 4 years, it was found to be incurable and he was given at the most, 10 years to live.
So, we plodded along, tried to put it to the back of our minds, 10 years is a long time right? well a couple of weeks ago he was taken into hospital, whilst there he had a suspected stroke, lost his speech, parts of his memory and the feeling down his right side leaving him bed-ridden and unable to hold a cup etc...so now they're giving him a few months , they've offered him more chemo but they don't know if it will do any good, if it did all it would do is give him a few more months to live and now they think they've found a secondry tumour meaning he's pretty much had it .

My grandad is in his 70's and has had a bad heart as well as being riddled with arthritis. He had a heart attack a couple of years ago and had a pace-maker fitted, now he's ill again and suffering from chest pains etc, he's like a father to me and I'm terrified I'm going to lose him, my own dad died before I was a teenager and I can't face the thought of going through it again.

My grandma, also in her 70's is more or less having a breakdown over the stress of my uncle, you would do if you knew your son was dying and I honestly don't think she'll cope when it happens. I have this horrible, morbid thought about losing the 3 of them pretty much one after another.

I feel so sad right now, I keep thinking back to my grandads boxing day parties that he used to hold for us kids, the way my uncle used to play jokes on people sending false letters asking for £millions from the water company for a laugh and taking the light bulbs out of peoples houses so they thought they'd ran out of electric. I keep thinking back to 15 years ago, all smiley faces, everyone fit and healthy and happy and now look at us.

I feel so sad

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ISawTortoiseKissingSantaClaus · 03/12/2006 22:50

Sorry you are having a tough time. Your memories sound wonderful and will always be with you.

WeFrizyouamerrychristmas · 03/12/2006 22:54

its horrible when you can't control things and feel so helpless, can sympathise as our family have recently lost two people in quick succession...tortoise is right, at least you have good memories when facing lifes one certainty, try not to let it knock you too much, remember grief is a very natural thing to be feeling. {{{Hugs}}}

Thaigal · 04/12/2006 11:12

Thanks for the replies I did feel a bit better today until I phoned my mum to chat and she started crying down the phone saying that everyone was snapping at her, apparantly she phoned my grandma this morning to see how my uncle was and my grandma was a bit 'off' with her...so now she's upset saying she doesn't want to go and see him anymore, then she started being funny with me as well and to be honest I can really be doing without petty bickering. She's starting to go on about how she's always been the laughing stock of the family and how everybody always leaves her out, I really can't be doing with all that now. I feel like switching my phone off and pleading ignorence to it all but I know I can't.

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