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To feel stereotyped & fed up with dealing with it

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littlelight01 · 12/10/2015 13:01

Just dropped dd1 off at nursery & had at least 2 definite blanks this morning. I have problems with social anxiety mainly caused by past bullying which makes me nervous around people when it's really bad it is noticeable & I am aware of this. But I've had a parent say "it's the kids I feel sorry for", last week 3 kids ran past us & I heard the one at the front say "I feel sorry for those kids!?" I mean really?, there was no one else there so it must have been about usAngry I just want to point out my kids are dressed weather appropriately, they are clean (we have bath time every night) their clothes are clean on every day & they are well fed, the only exception to this is ds2 who is currently being tested for autism, were also looking into a specialist school, this doesn't really help but it's not his fault either Angry I walked past one woman one afternoon when I was picking ds1 & 2 up & I had wet hair because ds2 had put something in the hairdryer & it exploded (ok I'm lol-ing now) but in all seriousness I had to pick the kids up with wet hair & made a joke about the rain we just had (it was a light drizzle but get if you don't laugh you cry right!?) as I walk past I hear her say "ugh, she's a right scrubba!" I'm like wtf? But the strange thing is she always seems to be watching me all the time. I turned around after talking to Ds 1 & 2's teacher & she's there just staring ? I think it's true that people fear what they don't understand. I also once had someone (including her daughter) point at me & both started laughing turned out on this day that I had a hole in my leggings (small near the calf) but still it's so rude & ignorant & to think that people pass this on to their children I've also had looks & stares because ds2 has kicked off but luckily no comments... Yet. Sorry for long post but this used to get to me & really affect my confidence & send my anxiety up.

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littlelight01 · 12/10/2015 13:13

What I don't get is a lot of times, just like in the past when people have bullied me it's like they know I have a problem & I get the usual I'm "special" or I have "problems" so they are admitting that they think there is something wrong with me yet they still bully? Why would you bully if you think someone's got something wrong with them it's like victimisation or something & it's like it's just accepted in society today, but I think if they bully me & I don't consider myself that bad, what do they do to other people that are worse than me? ...oh yeah & another one was from someone I don't even know when I was walking to the shop. I had my iPod on so they thought I couldn't hear but the song was just changing over. She said "look at the face on it, she's a right scrubber" again with the scrubba? My clothes are clean, my house is as clean as can be with a special needs child & I was screwing my face up because it was sunny & I hadn't got my sunglasses on, I mean if I saw somebody doing the same thing I'd have thought it's because the suns in their eyes? This is a new area to me & I've never had problems were I lived before, so I keep wondering wether people round here are stupid? I heard one of the neighbours kids down the road say "everybody knows she's got problems". I hear this family in the garden with their kids & all they do is swear, I mean like every other word is a swear word & the kids swear back & about a year ago one of the other neighbours cars got smashed up by another car in a case of mistaken identity (they were after said neighbours car - they got theirs too) ...& I'm the one with problems?

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littlelight01 · 12/10/2015 13:14

Sorry really have done now, it just gets me that society seems to accept this & is okay with it when it's just downright descrimunation Sad

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littlelight01 · 12/10/2015 13:18

Oh yeah the only exception to ds2 is that he only wears one thin coat all year round so I have to layer him up instead, but part of his autism & the way he is really we did hide it once for 3 months straight & sent him with another coat which dp & me had to carry down but still wouldn't wear it even for the teachers in the end it started getting REALLY cold so we gave in

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