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Got GPs appt on Tuesday - How do I tell her all thats wrong?

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Koshka1984 · 01/12/2006 10:28

I have a problem when I go to the doctors I forget to tell her most of whats wrongor i'm too embarrased about how bad I feel.

Does anyone have any tips about how I can get over this to convey how I feel to her?

Thanks

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shouldbedoinghousework · 01/12/2006 10:30

I'm always hopeless at this too! How about you write yourself a list today while it's all clearer in your mind? You can either read it out or just let her read it herself.

HeavenisInherwinterunderwear · 01/12/2006 10:30

Could you write down how you are feeling. Or make a list of points you want to bring up with the gp.
I don't know what it is about doctors that makes you forget what you went in for and all you were going to say.
HTH

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Koshka1984 · 01/12/2006 10:32

Thanks. I have tried to write it down but it just makes me cry and cry, then I feel so guilty i know there are so many people with it worse than me I just hate my life and everything/one.

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HeavenisInherwinterunderwear · 01/12/2006 10:36

Don't feel guilty. Just make points to bring up if you find it too hard to write everything in detail.
Is there anything you want to talk about on here or would you prefer to post under a different name.
((((((((hugs)))))))))))

kandi · 01/12/2006 10:39

Ah koshka, take a deep breath and let it all out. Most doctors are sympathetic, and if they're not theyre' not a good doctor. {{{hugs}}}

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Koshka1984 · 01/12/2006 10:40

I dont care what i write on here to be honest! I dont really have RL peeps to talk to, so I vent on here quite frequently!

Most of the time I just feel really low, tired and feel like killing myself cause i think that everyone would be happier if i did.

I regret having an abortion but i know i had to do it as i have a 4month old LO and I dont even remember having sex (my DP dumped me when LO was 10 weeks).
I am back at work, and I hate it they are putting me under too much pressure and the other staff are all horrid.
I am too scared to tell her incase she takes my baby away from me! I dont feel like im taking care of him properly and if I tell her that she might take him from me.

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Koshka1984 · 01/12/2006 10:41

kandi - she is the only good one - hence why I have had to wait 4 weeks to see her!

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kandi · 01/12/2006 10:45

Sweetheart, she won't take your baby away. But she might give you some ADs,which if you need them is not so bad, right? So sorry about the abortion, hun, but totally understand, it was out of your control. As for work, can you have a word with your boss?

shouldbedoinghousework · 01/12/2006 10:47

Oh Koshka1984 {{{{hugs}}}}
You really don't need to feel guilty. I know this is easier said than done- I went to my GP earlier this week feeling really awful about all sorts of things which in the grand scheme of things could be seen as petty but they were having a v negative effect on my life and that of my family so something had to be done before it got any worse. I was v worried that I'd be taking up the doctors time when she had people who were really ill to see but she was lovely and v understanding and I'm sure yours will be too x x

HeavenisInherwinterunderwear · 01/12/2006 10:49

They will not take you baby away from you. Have you spoken to your HV to see if she can give you any support.
Like Kandi says she may give you ADs.
Your baby needs you.
Did you have any counselling after your abortion ?

utterlyconfused · 01/12/2006 10:50

You know what, I don't think you have to tell them everything for them to see what's up. Just start wherever you want to, and she may well be able to steer you with some questions etc. Even if you say 6 or 7 out of every 10 things you want to say, I don't think the specifics of the other 3 things are necessarily important. They are not going to take your baby away from you. Of course you feel like you're not being a good mother - if you didn't feel like that you wouldn't be looking for help. But just because you feel it doesn't mean it's true. Hold tight. Don't worry. Look forward to the appointment because everything will start to get better very soon.

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Koshka1984 · 01/12/2006 11:10

thank you

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HeavenisInherwinterunderwear · 01/12/2006 12:31

You are being a good mother, you have got yourself an appointment with the doctor and this is the first and biggest step you have taken.
Well done for doing that.
It may take a little time,but things will start to get better.

dara · 01/12/2006 12:35

It is just another symptom of depression that you fear that your baby will be taken away. Tell her you feel so depressed you sometimest think of killing yourself. I think that will get the message over. You could even write a brief note and give it to her if you can't bear to talk.
You have had a hard and horrible time and I'm not surprised you are depressed. You are doing the brave and right thing in seeing your GP and I hope it really helps.

utterlyconfused · 01/12/2006 14:11

Koshka, please do keep us in touch and let us know how the appointment goes on Tuesday.

persephonesnape · 01/12/2006 14:53

I'd tell them everything - the relief you find in telling someone how you feel in person, rather than holding it all in (or telling all of us!) is wonderful and it is the first step in getting the help that you need.

hope it all works out.

((((hug))) from a new person!

HeavenisInherwinterunderwear · 05/12/2006 08:16

Koshka Hope everything goes well for you at the Drs today. Let us know how you get on. Thinking of you.

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Koshka1984 · 05/12/2006 08:45

thanks. i'm going in 20 mins and i'm a bit nervous!

The nerves start when I leave the house, because i'm scared the bus driver is not going to let me on! If I do not get the bus I get lost, so I am stuck.

Feeling sick just thinking about it.

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disguise · 05/12/2006 08:47

In my experience, once you start telling them, it willall flood out by itself. They will ask you specific questions too which you will automatically elaborate on as you will feel such relief from letting it all out.
hth

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Koshka1984 · 05/12/2006 08:48

thanks.
really should go........god ive never been nervous going to a doctors appt before!

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HeavenisInherwinterunderwear · 05/12/2006 11:56

How did you get on,sorry not been back earlier.
Check in later if I can get ds2 off cbeebies .

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Koshka1984 · 05/12/2006 12:05

been prescribed citalopram and she told me if my work gave me hassle just get them to call her and she will tell them how much they will have to pay for a sick note/letter.
she hates where i work.

fell a bit better, didnt tell her everything but am back in 2 weeks.

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winterpimms · 05/12/2006 12:47

Well done! You can talk to her again in a fortnight and hopefully the AD's will start working. xx

HeavenisInherwinterunderwear · 05/12/2006 13:46

Well done. You have your Drs support about work which is good too.
How do you feel now you've been.

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Koshka1984 · 05/12/2006 14:20

thanks.

I actually feel a bit better. I didn't cry or anything!

I said to her that I had to wait 5 weeksto see her and she looked a bit embarrased and said a large portion of the surgery request her so there's a backlog!

Shes so kind and nice.

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