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Support drifting away

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vxa2 · 28/09/2015 12:20

I have been going through an episode of anxiety and depression for the past year (probably longer if I am honest). It came to a head in February when I had what I suppose could be called a breakdown.

I have been trying so hard to get better. I started off on citalopram which did not work and after trying to boost it with quetiapine and rispiridone I am now taking venlafaxine.

The thing is I feel that the longer this goes on the less support I am getting. It is a bit like when you have a baby or somebody dies and initially you get lots of support but as time goes on people go back to their own lives.

I know that I am better than I have been at my worst but people seem to think that means I am completely better and back to my old self - I can't even remember what I was like before. I am really good at keeping myself together even when I am crumbling underneath. I have told my GP how I feel but she seems to have lost interest. Even my therapist who I have been seeing on and off over a number of episodes keeps saying I am much better and almost that I should think myself lucky because I could be much worse.

I have recently given up drinking because I know its not good for me so I was really hoping I might be feeling a bit better by now but I'm not. I have put on 7lbs since all this started which might not sound a lot but is really making me feel horrible. I feel like stopping the venlafaxine and giving up. I am so exhausted at trying to get better.

Anyone else know what I mean ?

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vxa2 · 28/09/2015 15:24

Can anyone help me ?

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TurquoiseCat · 28/09/2015 15:28

Didn't want to read and run, but don't really know what to say...

You say that you can appear to be okay, even if you're not feeling well - can you sit anyone down in RL (family/friends) and talk this through with them?

It sounds like your therapist is trying to make you see the positive, but this may not be helpful depending what state of mind you are currently in - if they are just ignoring what you are saying when you are speaking honestly, can you get a different therapist?

charley30 · 08/10/2015 20:34

I know exactly how you're feeling I had one really good friend who helped me out and was a good support then just backed off I know she saw me at my worst and it can be off putting wen someone doesn't really understand wat you're going thru .i wish I was back to the person I was also and I cry for help most days and wish I could get the help I need just someone to call and make me eat even if I don't want to or even just a hug I feel so isolated . How are you now

charley30 · 08/10/2015 20:36

Anyone Iv ever reached out to in the past year has slowly backed off its a horrible feeling . Where is all the support wen u need it most feel so alone with it all x

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