cant sit him down because "we" are doing a sulk atm. it feels like he just enjoys being mean and hurting me, so that I get upset and then he can be the big strong man and kiss it all better, but to be honest I am past that. He can keep sulking! Thanks for responding, I have to go to bed now. Last night I went to bed at 10.30 hoping to get up at 6 + do some housework, and he set the alarm for 4!! then went back to sleep. I , however woke up and stayed awake for the rest of the day, so just stir in a bit of sleep deprivation as well. Thanks again for your support, hope you sorted things out with yours ok tonight.