Rickman
The reason a counsellor will have told you to make a list of positive things you think are positive, is to try to change the way you think about yourself. We could give you a hundred positives on here, but if you don?t agree with them, then to you, they?re not positives iyswim.
Reality is, that as human beings we will always sell ourselves short. I bet if most of us sat down and made two lists, it?s far easier to make the list of negatives than it is to make the list of positives, partly because the bad things often come to mind first, and partly because as human beings we?re not programmed to big ourselves up like that. If you?re unable to make a list off the top of your head, try this:
Think about the time since things have started to go wrong for you, the time that has caused you to think the way you do about yourself. Then think about all the good things you have done in that time, all the positive things you?ve achieved. It could be that you?ve manaed to get a particular job, it could be that you?ve dealt with a particular behaviour from one of your kids in a positive way, it could be that you?ve redecorated the lounge, it could be that you had a lovely holiday/went on a lovely outing with the kids. Then, after you?ve made the list of the good things that have happened in your life, look at that list, and from that, make a list of the positive input you had into those good things, and from that positive input, it will hopefully give you an idea of the positive aspects about you.
Good luck xx