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Going mad- do you recognise this, and if so, what will be done?

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NumNumMum · 18/11/2006 23:55

I've experienced pnd before- the numb staring into space, can't raise a smile and crying all the time kind, but this feels different. I feel like I'm loosing my mind. I've been a bit erratic since my lo's birth 5 months ago. If anything goes wrong I just loose it, I can't cope with stress, I loose my temper with dp, I don't know what to do with all the frustration I hold. I have done stupid things like bang my head against the wall. I try not to take it out on my children but I have lost my patience with my 10 year old and shout at her too much which is out of character. I cry and cry. Feel like running away. This can last off and on for a couple of days. Then though, I can be fine and "normal" for days before I go mad again. Is this depression? I do feel very low and pointless and worthless when I'm like that, and I'm letting my daughter down. She was looking forward to her brother arriving and now everything's falling apart . If anyone recognises this and it is depression then what is the usual treatment? Tablets I've been prescribed before have been serotonin re-uptake inhibitors which picked me up. I'm really concerned I'll be given some kind of tranquilisers which will dumb me down and worse, be addictive.

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misdee · 18/11/2006 23:57

i went totally mad and irrational after dd1's birth. lost it over the smallest things, not the usual staring, breaking down type PND. but it is PND. i was perscribed AD's, not tranqs.

Skribble · 19/11/2006 00:01

Sounds like me after having my 2. I know now i had quite bad PND and wish I had seen my doctor then.

NumNumMum · 19/11/2006 00:02

Thanks for your answer, Misdee. I'm less worried about seeing the doctor now I know what's what a bit more.

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NumNumMum · 19/11/2006 00:03

thanks, Skribble. I'll make an appointment Monday now. Were you given ads?

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Skribble · 19/11/2006 00:04

I never went.

NumNumMum · 19/11/2006 00:06

How are you now though Skribble? Was this long ago?

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Skribble · 19/11/2006 00:08

My youngest is 7 years. Nobody recognised I had PND, I was trying to be super mum with my first, and didn't want to admit that I wasn't coping.

I still get depressed and wonder if I had tackled it earlier if it would be better now.

DratherBdiggin · 19/11/2006 00:08

yup! Sounds like pnd. going through it myself at the moment. (digging helps)

NumNumMum · 19/11/2006 00:20

It's not too late to see someone, Skribble, if you aren't. I think it's something to be lived with and managed if you're susceptible. I've had many brushes in the past, though not like this.
Totally totally agree,'Diggin, best therapy in the world! (Pruning's pretty good too.)

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NumNumMum · 19/11/2006 00:22

Gotta go. Thanks all.

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Skribble · 19/11/2006 00:25

Trying to do my own therapy at the moment .

FWIW I found that starting work after having my first one was the best thing I did. I didn't know anyone there and as far as they were concerned I was just me, not mummy.

I think I was quite bad as I had moved and had no freinds or family of my own nearby, plus pregnancy and birth was traumatic. It is good to have some me time, away from the demands of husbands babies and homes.

Many things bring me down, a lot of which I realy need to tackle.

DratherBdiggin · 19/11/2006 00:31

yes, moving is terrible. Just after you have had a baby you need to feel secure and cared for a bit yourself, and to suddenly have no friends or family around can be really bad(been there twice). Don't know what to suggest (apart from digging), gp, are you near any sure start centres or is your hv ok? sometimes they run support groups. What kind of therapy are you trying?

DratherBdiggin · 19/11/2006 00:32

ok, she's gone, I'm talking to the wall again........

Skribble · 19/11/2006 00:33

ITs OK I am stepping out of this thread it was NumNumNum that was OP.

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