How do you get DP to seek help for depression

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DH is under a lot of pressure with work at the moment and told me at the weekend he feels depressed. He's short-tempered, tearful, loss of interest in things. This has happened before (usually always around work) but he doesn't seek help, won't talk to GP or see a counsellor, won't take exercise or have a break away. The last time he was so desperately unhappy we uprooted our lives and moved 400 miles from my home town so that he could take up a new job. It was such a stressful time for me that I became a bit depressed but got through it. I'm not proud of this but I'm feeling fed up with this cycle of 'get a new job, feel happy for a bit then feel the pressure and get depressed'. He's now talking about re-training as a teacher, which I'm absolutely behind if he really wants to do it but I've said that's not an easy job either and he has to be really sure that he wants to do it. I'd be main bread-winner which I'm happy to do but he's done nothing to look into it and can't help feeling it's another random idea.
Meantime, he refuses to seek any help so we lurch from one down time to another. What can I do? This affects my mood and how we are with the children.

This may sound hard but l think you have done what you can. He knows what to do. My dh was depressed and we also moved to make him happier but of course the depression followed him. I suggested all the right things but he did none of them. Then l began to say..lm sure you will work it out..and moved on. In two days he went to Go himself. I think when they pass over the worry to us they do nothing but when we pass it back they act. Also l made my mind up internally that l was doing no more moving and no more changing job as it's just an effort to escape the pain which is understandable but doesn't usually work for any length of time. My dh did assess helhelp and l used far less energy .. I got so disappointed when he didn't listen to me but spared myself that by making no more recommendations ..

Maybe sit him down and tell him how you feel, just as you have posted above first. I would tell him you can't go on like this and you need him to see the doctor because you think he is depressed. I think it's time to be forthright and firm.