What's wrong with her?

[SofaSpud]

My adult dsd has some mental health issues. She has told huge lies in the past (terminal illnesses etc). She's so difficult we have felt a need to distance ourselves. We had a family event recently, she broke down saying she didn't feel part of the family. Fast forward to this week and she has made a disgusting allegation about her DF (my DH) at said family event. DH thinks the allegation more than anything else shows what a bad place she is in mentally and that she needs help. I'm not sure I can be part of it because I've taken all I can take. She mentioned years ago she was diagnosed bpd but I think it's worse. It's like she is a psychopath. How can he help her?

I've reported my op to mnhq twice asking for deletion. Can anyone please advise if this is the correct way to request this?

I think so.
I am sorry that you had a response in which you were the target, rather than people offering advice.
It will certainly make me think twice about posting a thread here :-(
Best wishes.

Yes I'm sorry too that you were criticised unfairly - it's unusual on the MH threads. I think it could be because it was a SP issue and it's possible people thought she was a child, rather than an adult, but it's still not good that you were not supported. I don't think MNHQ usually delete whole threads but think they will if there is a good reason.

Hi Sofaspud, we sent you a couple of emails in reply to your requests, did you not get them?

My dd is 18 and has bpd, she is an inpatient in a secure psychiatric hospital. She had previously made (unfounded) allegations against male staff in previous units so I do recognise this. Unless she is needing sectioning there isn't anything you can do about getting her in a unit unfortunately. You could phone 'mind' for advice though.

my response to sofas posts were not meant to be as harsh as they appear on reading back. I apologise for that. i posted because from the op i thought the dsd was a young adult.

Op you have received some good advice on here , especially from nananina. She is right. sometimes you do have to preserve yourown mental health.

i stand by my advice that her dadneeds to see the gp as a first port ofcall and take it from there.

im sorry if i upset you sofa.

I didn't flounce. My message to hq was that I feared this was maybe not the right section for my post and I didn't want to unintentionally cause any upset to other users. I wouldn't have wanted anyone to say she was evil scum. Psychopathy does exist. I have empathised for twenty years. I'm sure ashtray and I have a better understanding about our family members and whether their allegations have any basis better than some aggressive poster.

Thank you LEM you didn't upset me but I am upset at the moment. I appreciate your replies.
Mnhq they were going to spam. Apologies, I'll reply soon.