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Hubby feeling depressed & I'm 25wks pregnant????

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MumToBe2015R · 19/04/2015 20:37

We're having our first child after TTC for 4yrs. Hubby opened up to me last night saying he feels depressed, down & stressed. He says its nothing to do with the pregnancy as that's all he wants & is really looking forward to bubba coming soon. Me & my MIL don't really see eye to eye, I try & get on with her just for peace really, but she's very interfering & tries to put hubby against me. Says a lot of horrible things about me to other people which I've heard from them. So basically me & her do argue occasionally, I feel it's best me & her don't mix in which case there won't be problems. But I think hubby feels abit restricted going over to see his mum & stuff, which don't get me wrong I have never stopped him & never will, it's his mum! He said to me last night all he wants is peace & for us to get on, in which case he can also look out for her more & keep an eye she's okay (as he's the only child & she's a widow)

I told him I am happy for us to sit down & talk, make her understand that in all this it's affecting my hubby.

But he feels she won't understand & won't care.

What do we/him do?

Sorry to go on. Any advise would be really helpful. Just hate seeing hubby down like this when it's supposed to be such a happy time for us. Sorry forgot to mention above, all this tension & stress is bringing his health down too, he's constantly ill, doesn't want to do anything, doesn't talk much. Sad

Please help x

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NanaNina · 19/04/2015 23:23

It sounds like your DH is depressed, and needs to see his GP - has he suffered like this in the past, as depression is one of those things that tends to recur. When you say he's "constantly ill" - do you mean physical things - it could be anxiety related, as depression and anxiety usually go together, and often anxiety can manifest itself in physical symptoms. I'm wondering why the thing with MIL has become an issue now, as it sounds like there has been tension between the two of you for sometime. I think you're probably right if you keep your distance to save arguments, unless you can just try to rise about it for DH's sake, especially while he is feeling so low.

Congratulations on your pregnancy !

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