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got drunk police involved

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weirdhamster · 18/04/2015 07:52

feel so awful not as sure what happened but know police were called to gat me to leave friends house. what shall I do and will this effect my job

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Brambles34 · 18/04/2015 07:53

Where are you now (I'm guessing not in a cell) and what is your job?

Brambles34 · 18/04/2015 07:55

Most 'domestics' are finished off with 'NFA' (no further action) if you were just drunk and being a pain (you're not the first and won't be the last!) Thats assuming you hadn't done anything major like attack someone or assist an officer etc? Do you know what you did?

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weirdhamster · 18/04/2015 07:56

at home and work with kids but not childcare feel awful not SD sure we what to do feel like throwing myself off cliff

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Shesparkles · 18/04/2015 07:56

You need to prepare an extremely grovelling apology to your friend. If police just asked you to leve it won't have any repercussions

Brambles34 · 18/04/2015 07:56

*assault not assist

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weirdhamster · 18/04/2015 07:57

don't really remember

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Brambles34 · 18/04/2015 07:58

If you weren't charged with anything then you'll be fine :-) concentrate more about how to make up with your friend x

NerrSnerr · 18/04/2015 07:58

It depends what happened and what the police did with you? You really need to apologise to your friend (although, if they needed to call the police to get rid of you they might not be a friend anymore).

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHorrid · 18/04/2015 08:00

That sounds rough, it's doubtful the police will take it any further. It shouldn't impact your job unless you are employed by your friends.

I'm afraid it's time to apologise grovel to your friend. Could you send some flowers round for them this afternoon?

DoTheDuckFace · 18/04/2015 08:00

If you were just asked to leave it won't be on your file. I would be worried that you can't remember what happened though.
Apologize profusely to your friend.

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weirdhamster · 18/04/2015 08:04

I feel do awful its too early to call isn't it feel like driving off a big bridge seriously

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ItsAllKickingOffPru · 18/04/2015 08:08

Apart from the shock of having the police involved you'll be feeling the depressive effects of alcohol today, so go easy on yourself, give yourself a bit of time to process what happened and your friend time to think about it too.

Aussiemum78 · 18/04/2015 08:11

No need to be suicidal. You probably made a complete idiot of yourself, but if you weren't charged or locked up, there is nothing in your record and no worries about your job.

Send your friends a message that you aren't sure what happened last night but you are terribly sorry they had to call police.

Are they old friends? Hopefully they will accept your apology. Do you drink that much often or is it a one off?

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weirdhamster · 18/04/2015 08:20

I don't usually drink socially as I know I have a tendency to go off on one. I just want to end it all am sick of it

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ItsAllKickingOffPru · 18/04/2015 08:29

Please listen, it's very much not the end of the world to be carried away by alcohol and get into a situation.
You can look at your drinking habits and see what you can do about it, you can speak to your friend when you've both had time to calm down a bit, there is nothing that can't be fixed about this, honestly.
The very worst thing that can happen is that you lose a friend, but it might not come to that
Let the alcohol get out your system today, have as much rest as you can and look at it all with a clearer head tomorrow.

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weirdhamster · 18/04/2015 09:37

its awful I feel so low my friend isn't replying to my messages

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ItsAllKickingOffPru · 18/04/2015 10:06

Leave it a bit. She's probably still angry. Let her think about it - she might not want to get into it with you so soon after.

ImperialBlether · 18/04/2015 10:11

Show you're sorry by getting a grip on your drinking and leave her alone at the moment - she doesn't want to accept your apologies so quickly after being pissed off with you.

Branleuse · 18/04/2015 10:15

We have all done stupid embarrassing things and im sure every single one of us has acted like a stupid arsehole at times. This is not the end of the world or the end of your life, although it sounds like a wakeup call that you cannot drink alcohol safely. You wont be the only one that applies to.
Youve apologised. Its probably too soon, or she might not even want your apology and youve messed that friendship up. Dont be overdramatic about it. Nurse your hangover and get on with your life.
Just because alcohol is a legal drug, doesnt mean everyone's tolerates it. many people dont handle it at all

OneStepCloser · 18/04/2015 10:16

It must have been quite bad for the police to be called, I would give her time, she might not want to hear your apologies just yet. Yes, it does sound as though you may need help with your drinking, actions will speak louder than words to your friend as well.

LeBearPolar · 18/04/2015 10:19

If your friend had to call the police to have you removed from the house, it's not really surprising she/he isn't replying to your messages: they are probably frightened and upset by whatever happened last night and need time to come to terms with it. The best thing you can do is to respect that and give them some space.

Hopefully if the police just escorted you away from the house and didn't arrest you, this shouldn't affect your job. But the scare is a clear wake-up call to you to address your drinking problem, because next time it might be more serious.

MelonBallersAreStrange · 18/04/2015 10:20

Ask the police what you did.

YouMeddlingKids · 18/04/2015 10:23

I've felt suicidal many times in the past after a huge binge, half of it will just be the physical effects of the alcohol and you will feel better tomorrow than you do today. For today, I'd recommend lots of liquid, carby comfort food, and as quiet a day as possible. With regards to your friends/ the police - you can get through this, life will continue and when the effects of the alcohol have left your system you can plan when steps you can take to make amends.
This can be a great lesson for you (as by the sounds of it neither you or anyone else has been seriously hurt, so no real harm done) which you can look back on in years to come as the last time you let alcohol negatively impact on your life. FWIW I don't really drink anymore and life is good (and I'm still friends with most of the people who saw me at my worst!)

OneStepCloser · 18/04/2015 10:32

Theres a brilliant surpportive drinking thread on here I believe, perhaps pop over and have a look.

Tollygunge · 18/04/2015 10:36

You can ask the police what you did- it won't jeopardise anything. If it's any conciliation, I've acted like a massive twit after too many sambuccas before.

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