DH and I have been married for a year, together for ten. 3 years ago he was diagnosed with diabetes and high blood pressure and has been on medication ever since. Last year the GP put him on 30mg mirtrizapine for depression. It seemed to help him for a few months but the last few months have been unbearable. He's always crying and doesn't know what's wrong. Finds its hard to handle social situations when he used to be really really outgoing. We've had sex 6 times in 12 months, says he finds it difficult to maintain an erection (sorry if tmi). His job, a couple of months ago changed from 8 hour shifts to 12 hours and he's always exhausted. He's taken a lot of weight off recently (3 stone since December) but his eating habits haven't changed (we've both always been overweight). Last night he just crumpled up in a heap sobbing uncontrollably saying he feels anxious all the time and he's struggling to function and that he doesn't feel well, his mind doesn't work, his body doesn't work.
I just don't know how to handle it. I've tried being sympathetic. Yesterday I lost it a bit and told him to look for another job and go back to docs which was not the right thing to say. Ive made it worse and made him feel guilty. Meanwhile; I'm struggling with running the house by myself, working long hours and feeling really isolated because he doesn't want me to tell a friend because he's embarassed. We bought our own home last year, got marrid, finally able to start affording holidays again after years of being broke and I feel like this year should have been amazing and instead it feels like the worst one yet. I don't know how to help him and can feel myself starting to resent him. Aside from having no sex, he barely touches me, even fr a cuddle. I feel so alone. And then I feel selfish, because he's the one suffering. I'll shut up now as I realise I'm rambling.
Other than going back to the docs, what can I say? What should I not say?