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not sure to what do, I just cant stop fearing/worrying

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creativeme · 12/03/2015 15:08

Hi, I wonder if anyone else suffers from this at all. I have kind of had it all my life, since the age of 18, diagnosed mild depression as I went through a change of lifestyle and moving out of my parents.

Then when i was 24/25 the same thing happened but then suffered from panic attacks on and off. i noticed over the years i was able to cope better and didnt really suffer from depression just panic attacks every now and again but it was manageable.

Now since reaching 40, weirdly, I am feeling low again. My dad, aged 71 had a few health issues last year and previous and this effected me, all I keep on thinking is my parents leaving me and dying even though both are in good health, and i will be left alone. I feel very lonely even though I have friends and a great job, i am still single and would like to try and be a better stronger person.

I have always been a nervous, anxious person, my dad is the same (not as bad) and his mum was worse, if not worse than me....so there is a family tendency of depression around.

I don't like anti depressants nor do i like any medication. Someone mentioned meditation, exercise, yoga, st johns wort which should all be beneficial and also CBT/hypnotherapy. Would anyone suggest this or had anything like this to see the effects?

thank you, i have suffered about 4 colds/flu in 4 months and I know something has to change here as feeling very run down. I work with people as my job and its very intense, so had to cut down the hours as well so that I can look after myself too.

thank you kindly for reading.

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123upthere · 12/03/2015 15:29

I can empathise with this. What helped me was deep breathing so tummy inflates when breathing in, holding for a count of 5 and exhaling when I feel stressed

Also drinking more water helped me - surprisingly - it improved my energy levels

A walk of 30 mins each day. Start small walk round the block then longer walks

Diet - bananas have serotonin a calming nutrient/ wholefoods / less sugar

Early nights for a while - when I'm overtired i get very low.

Hope this helps in some way

123upthere · 12/03/2015 15:32

Also mindfulness techniques can slowly over time train your mind to deal with the worry

When the worrying thought comes, step in there and say to yourself what can I do in this moment to solve this worry? If nothing you can do then there is nothing you can do. You are still a valuable person still there, nothing dreadful can happen to you.

This takes time to practice but worth it. Worth a search on amazon or you tube for mindfulness

123upthere · 12/03/2015 15:37

Also having a small thing to look forward to each day helps me - doesn't have to be expensive could be a hot bath and a book/nice glass of wine with dinner/ a walk at the weekend near the coast etc

Just something to help you get through the days! Is there somewhere you can stop for a break on way home from work? I tend to clear my mind with a wander around a bookshop after work.

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