Who has a "safety plan" for *those* thoughts?

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I used to have one - it was principally ds as he was moving schools, all the year 7 school choices malarkey etc but he is now safely settled and happy.
There isn't anything else I can think of (dcs older and do not need me as much) which would put a hold on that final step and I really do need one.
What other ideas do people use / suggest?

He's only safely settled and happy because you're there! Do you really think that would still be the case if he lost his mum?! They need you far more than you think.

I haven't been in that place for a long time now but when I was, dh pointed out that the consequences for people I loved would be so awful that it could outweigh all the good things I have ever done in my life. I find that quite a sobering thought, but he's right about the amount of unhappiness it would create. (Not to blame people who do it, because they're likely in a place where it is impossible for them to grasp how much they're loved and needed.)