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Does anyone else have this?

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Karmaone · 21/02/2015 22:26

I work in a school in a busy, stressful role and half term is coming to an end. Everyone else I speak to was looking forward to their week off but I hate it. I feel like a bit of a freak for this. I have no drive to do anything but hate myself for not getting up earlier and going somewhere. As time goes on I feel lower and lower and today I've been bursting into tears at random times and just wanted to curl up and sleep. I have been on Ads for many years and normally cope fine but the holidays are torture. The summer one is the worst. I feel directionless and always feel ill like I have this week. Does anyone relate to this or can explain to me why I feel like this? Thanks.

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SilverStars · 21/02/2015 22:46

Is it the lack of structure and routine that is difficult?

If so can you out some things in place to help during holidays - helping at holiday play schemes, a calendar filled with activities and appointments ( from taking books to library etc).

MrsMinton · 21/02/2015 22:56

I did in the summer hols. I couldn't get motivated or do anything. I wasted the whole summer. I then got my Ads at the end of the summer. This half term I've got some things done but now have the half term cold

MrsMinton · 21/02/2015 22:57

I think as well we are so busy that when we come to a dead stop it catches us up.

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Karmaone · 22/02/2015 08:37

Silver that is it I think. No routine and not enough to do. Must make plans. Mrsminton I know how you feel. I've had the half term cold too and my father in law died this week. I spent a whole day at the hospital with him. Probably underestimated that impact too. HD a really bad day yesterday. Felt so low.

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SilverStars · 22/02/2015 10:06

Why not get a diary and put it any definite plans. Then see any gaps and put "tasks" in you wish to achieve? And that could be anything from extra school work/needing to go into school to shopping to garden centre trips, etc)

Oh so sorry to hear of your loss. That would be a bad day for anyone. How awful for you.

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Karmaone · 22/02/2015 10:21

Thanks silver. Knew father in law for 30 years and have been supporting mother in law too during his illness. All very sad. The diary idea is a good one. Forward planning is the key I think. I will start working on plans for the easter break.

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elly333pink · 22/02/2015 20:13

Feel exactly the same as you Karmaone. I'm a teacher too and struggle in the hols. Have two children (15 and 11) and although I look forward to having a rest, I usually find that it triggers a depression and I feel very lethargic and tearful and also (especially in summer hols) feel that everyone else is having more fun. Think I feel depressed about feeling depressed!! Am sure it's got something to do with going at 100mph and then suddenly stopping. Feel like I've been out on a fast spin cycle on the washing machine and then spat out!

Star8181 · 22/02/2015 20:55

Yes, me! Just the same! I'm a teacher and find the holidays hard. The worst was maternity leave for me. I think it's because I finally have time to sit and 'think' and it gets me down. I've been on Citalopram for about 4 years. I only cope by making lots of plans to keep really busy. I'm glad it's not just me x

Star8181 · 22/02/2015 20:56

And sorry about your father in law x

MrsMinton · 22/02/2015 21:51

Sorry about your father in law that will have taken its toll this holiday.

Maybe for easter hols we should have a thread? Talk to each other and support each other.

elly333pink · 22/02/2015 22:47

Great idea.

MrsMinton · 22/02/2015 23:19

I'll start one the week before then.

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Karmaone · 23/02/2015 13:15

Elliott and Star so glad it's not just me! Although I am of course sorry that you both feel down on holidays too because it feels awful. Mrsminton we should set up a group as it seems to be a thing! Great idea. Back at work today and feeling vaguely human again. Although not sure for how long!

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Star8181 · 23/02/2015 18:16

Brilliant idea. I felt much better for being back in a routine today.

MrsMinton · 23/02/2015 18:34

Karmaone I think that's a great idea.

I felt better being back in. Although I was awfully tired getting up.

elly333pink · 23/02/2015 19:10

Feel much better today too. It's weird how you can feel so out of sorts - you start to think there's something really wrong but we obviously just do better when our body clocks are in a routine.

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Karmaone · 23/02/2015 19:36

Yes it was a bit of a struggle getting out of bed. I now don't feel ill! Bit tired as it was a nuts day. I wonder if there is a scientific explanation for this phenomenon! Maybe all those people who say they are busy doing interesting things are really slobbing round the house rather than skydiving or climbing Mount Everest!

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