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This is just a tiny thing but massive to me

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SurlyCue · 11/02/2015 19:25

The dishes are being done several times a day, after every meal and my counters are clear.

This is nothing to some people and not important but it was how i lived before depression came to stay and it was something that i could never seem to get back to for over 6 years now. My dishes would be left for days building up and taking over the counter space until i had no clean dishes. Often i would take the DCs for take away to avoid having to wash dishes and clear space for cooking. Sometimes i would try and tackle the pile and have to soak things but i'd lose the motivation to go back to them so they'd just stay dirty in slimy water. I would keep the kitchen blind down so neighbours couldnt see the state of the place.

But for the past few weeks ive been happily doing the dishes every day. My kitchen consistently resembles the way it used to look before i became ill. It isnt a chore. I am enjoying doing it and i love walking in to see the clear surfaces. I come down in the morning to an empty sink.

Like i said this doesnt matter. Its fine to have dishes in your sink but for me it is just another little sign that i am finally getting back to being me. There are others but i think this is the most visible one for me.

Not expecting any response really, i just wanted to get this out of my head and "on record" somewhere. Just as acknowledgement that it is happening.
Smile

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JeanSeberg · 11/02/2015 19:27

Aah that's great to read, long way it continue.

Although are the kids complaining about the drop-off in takeaways he he.

Woodenheart · 11/02/2015 19:33

Well done, its hard work but worth it,

it is lovely to see it clear, I did all mine before work and it makes me not dread coming home with a grizzly toddler, and then having to start washing up.

I get overwhelmed with housework, laundry etc, I have recently decluttered my whole house, as it was taking so long to tidy, clean and have time to actually live life, rather than feeling trapped inside.

Roll on summer, because I have no plans to be indoors cleaning.

Im saving up for a dishwasher to, & my motto is tidy house, tidy mind.
It works for me, I can only relax when all around me is organised.

Sorry Im rambling, but keep at it, I understand how good it feels Flowers

Millie2013 · 11/02/2015 19:35

That's not tiny, that's huge!!! Well done you, what a lovely post :)

Greenrememberedhills · 11/02/2015 19:37

Lovely to hear.

latersbabes · 11/02/2015 19:40

Aw that's great news. Feel very pleased with yourself.

Notrevealingmyidentity · 11/02/2015 19:42

I know what you mean. Is the little things.

I'm glad I have a job and can get up, go to work and come home again. At one point I wasn't sure id live long enough to even go to college so it feels a huge achievement.

CitizenOfTheWorld · 11/02/2015 19:42

Well done to you, you should be very proud. I'm sure those dishes felt like a big mountain to climb.

MrsMinton · 11/02/2015 19:44

Just getting something like that back under control is fantastic. Well done Smile

SurlyCue · 11/02/2015 21:04

Thank you all for lovely messages. My friend arrived just as i posted so didnt get back to the thread.

Although are the kids complaining about the drop-off in takeaways he he

Yes they do sometimes! they dont appreciate my efforts to provide them with clean plates! Grin

my motto is tidy house, tidy mind.
It works for me, I can only relax when all around me is organised.

Yes i have always felt the same and i have noticed such a lift in my mood when the house is tidy. There is a direct correleation between the state of my house and my state of mind. Tidy house, tidy mind is spot on!

At one point I wasn't sure id live long enough to even go to college so it feels a huge achievement

I am now in college too. Something i thought i wasnt capable of. I am going every day, plus working part time, i am showering daily, having regular hair cuts, and managing the house. Such little things but things i wasnt able to do a year ago. I am a person with a life again. (And a new boyfriend for the first time in 5 years! Grin)

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