Anyone about to chat please?

[FaithLoveandGrace]

DP and I are constantly arguing atm. He's said he doesn't want to get married and I don't know what to think :'( he always says it when we row and it makes me think there's a part of him that just doesn't want to. I don't know what to do / think. Maybe it's me? I find myself saying things I don't really mean but that I know will hurt him. And then these constant negative thoughts make me feel really triggered and wanting to self harm. Just feel like I'm stuck in an awful place and have no idea how to get out :'(

Is this just due to your relationship issues or did you have these thoughts/feelings before? Are you getting any external help?

I've been self harming on and off for almost 5 years now. Relationship troubles just exasperate things. I'm seeing a counsellor but haven't seen her this week.

Hi Faith, I think I've read another thread of yours.

Are you familiar with any techniques for avoiding self-harm?

Hi Enn yes I should in theory know some but tbh my head is a mess right now. I'm snuggled under my quilt atm with thoughts just whizzing around my head. I'm exhausted and tbh think right now I'm less likely to self harm as I'm just so tired and don't want to move. Battling the thoughts though.

Okay, you're in bed, that's good

Its exhausting just continually having to remake the decision not to self-harm - how about you put off making the decision not to self-harm until half-past? For the next ten minutes, concentrate on the way the quilt feels weighing on you, your head on the pillow, the sounds etc. around you?

Thanks enn I like the idea of putting it off and focusing on other things

No advice, just sending you kind thoughts and a hug

faith

Once it gets to half-past, you can always put it off again if you like

How's it going Faith?