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fed up with my life

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jac80 · 19/10/2006 21:35

need a good moan why is it everywhere you go people seem so happy, just when you dont want to see it. Ive been really fedup at the moment, dont wana be with partner as he expects me to do everything as if he where back hom with mummy. want to work but cant find a job to suit childcare. yet all i see when i go out is loving couples and there smiling lo's. anyone else feel like this its driving me nuts!

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moondog · 19/10/2006 21:46

Plenty of people do Jac.

littletikes · 19/10/2006 21:56

jac
i seem to live in happy town too. I must be the most talked about person in town with such a long sad face. But i wont go into my problems. I know what you mean about the couple thing too. My friends assure me that dont worry most of them are having affairs anyway. he he

shhhh · 19/10/2006 22:00

Sadly thats life..when you want a bay you see babies everywhere, when you want to get married everyone and their dog is getting married...

It's just the fact that you are down and are picking up on these areas a little more..Remember that although people may "look" happy this may not always be the case. Alot of people are good at putting on a show.

I always comment to dh, "you never seem to be really affectionate with me when around others (you know like the "celebrities/stars" always seem to be". DH's reply is always "well I don't need to show how much I love you in public. People that are ott with affection in public are usually hiding something". And you know what, in the case of our friends etc he;s right 99% of the time.

Have you spoken to your dp.?

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jac80 · 19/10/2006 22:07

yeah but hes just self mined. never use to be but since lo was born a girl and not a boy, he like a little baby. i mean how can you be jelous of a 2.5 year old

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shhhh · 19/10/2006 22:12

Some people find it hard to adjust to having a lo. Thing is that us women have slightly longer to bond with the baby as we carry them for 9 months and are the ones who feel every movement and experience all the emotions etc.
Men just have a 9 month wait and then all of a sudden the lo has arrived. Some men do take a long time to adjust. Friends of ours with lo's are similar to your dp. They can;t wait for the "baby" to become a toddler and would rather be on their playstation than seeing to the lo.

Some men also feel more "macho" when they produce a boy..mad I know,,again thats the case of friends of ours. We are the only one's with a dd and the discussions they have "around" us and the fact that having a boy is so brilliant and macho etc. Bores me really BUT thats what the believe and think.
We are expecting a ds in Jan so maybe they will welcome us into the group a little more.! Yeah right, like I need them..!

Do you two still have "us" time.? Do you go our for meals and as a couple as well as a family.? Maybe the fact that you are a sahm inpacts on him with regards to time he spends with your dd.?

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