Struggling after relationship breakdown

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I'm struggling, anxious, overthinking etc and lost a lot of confidence. Things feel unreal every now and then. I am getting out, looking after ds, doing the essentials but feel numb, like I'm acting out my life? I've been here before following previous divorce but the breakup of this relationship seems to have triggered all sorts.. Ok, so I have gym membership, I have 'friends' I could talk to, but find I hide away because I can as I live alone.. I just want to pull out of it.. I'm take sertraline, just started again.. Would love to hear advice.. Tua

You poor thing. The only thing that you know for certain is that grief does heal with time.
So you do have something to look forward to. Crazy as that idea might seem at the moment it will happen and you will get more able to cope.
No one can suggest a quick fix solution for a broken heart, but I know from experience that time heals most things. Or at least it numbs the pain.
I have had a terrible tragedy happen in my life, hence my nickname and I can vouch for what I am saying.
You are doing all the right things to combat your situation. You could also probably be referred for a Mindfulness course by your GP as you are on anti- Depressants. It will really help with anxiety.
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Hi himh, thank you for your reply. The relationship was controlling and he did something quite traumatic to me in the end, deceitful and nasty. I'll hold onto getting through the grief it's so confusing but I know I have to accept my feelings. Feel v low at times..

Feeling angry when someone has let us down is very natural. However your mind can control your body. For instance, imagine your feel down and a letter comes through the door from Premium Bonds. It says you have won £200,00. It would immediately lift your spirit even if your were miserable.

You have two paths to go down now. The ' poor me' road or the ' Lucky Escape ' from the b* ard ' route.

You don't have to be a victim of this mans actions as you can learn from it. In fact you owe it to your self not to give him another thought because it wastes time. It is YOUR time after and you could be thinking positive thoughts and nurturing yourself instead.

You didn't deserve this to happen to you, so you need to stop punishing yourself. He won't care that you are depressed/ can't sleep etc.
So try and change your mindset from victim to some one who is determined to get past this and survive.
A Mindful course will help. Lots of hugsxxxlo

Thank you. I'm continuing to take ads.. My fighting spirit is coming back. I've signed up to do something today as a focus ( an ambition) I just feel so sad at times. I loved him, I wanted it to be different and I didn't deserve how he behaved. I haven't even had a sorry.. Nothing, just zero contact. No closure..