Really struggling

[Hueycool]

I don't want to go on ad's and I know things will get better but right now I'm finding it hard to stay positive. I'm so tired of managing everything on my own. I'm a single parent, I have no family and few real friends. I'm so tearful lots of the time and I really need someone to talk to. I'm sitting in my dining room with the window open listening to my lovely neighbours being a family and I feel achingly alone. I need to make it better. I don't know how.

That sounds tough Huey, no wonder you're feeling fed up. It's hard feeling isolated and lonely; you need to find some new ways of meeting people.

How old are your children (are they in school/nursery or with you in the day)? Do you have any hobbies or interests?

Big hug, this won't last forever.

I'm with you there Huey. Life as an lp seems like such a battle sometimes. The challenges just keep on coming and I don't think anyone other than other lps realise quite how hard it is to keep tackling them alone, time after time. Respect to you as you are doing it, you are coping, you are surviving.

I'm not sure I have any advice for you apart from keep getting out of the house for walks/swimming/bike rides if you can. Is there anyone else in your life in a similar situation that you could befriend? If not keep coming on mumsnet!

I'm an lp and I'm in a very similar situation to you - I don't have a lot of friends and don't somehow feel part of society. On the verge of going to the docs for ads - winter/Christmas is always bad for me - but I am fighting it for some reason - I suppose I know I will have good days soon.

Take care

Thanks all for your kind words. I've arranged to get my bloods done next week just to check I don't need my thyroxine increasing. I Met a friend for lunch this week and it was really nice just to tell someone and another friend is coming round for dinner on Friday so I'll get the chance to offload a bit again. I just feel guilty if I'm not positive all the time. I know I need to do more socialising but I then need to arrange a sitter and it feels like such a stress. My son is only a few years off not needing a sitter. If another person tells me I'll meet someone when he leaves home I'll scream I've been single for ten years Im bloody fed up with it! I've accepted in on my own but lord it's hard sometimes.

Don't feel bad for not being super positive all the time - nobody is! I bet your friends are glad to let you offload so don't feel guilty.

A single parent friend of mine has a book club round her house each week so no need to arrange a sitter. Maybe something like that where people come to you could work?

Lol at people telling you you'll meet someone when your son leaves home! I'm sure they're trying to be encouraging... but how annoying! Anyway, loneliness isn't necessarily about not having a partner, it's about not having enough meaningful contact with friends. And you're trying to do something about that so you WILL feel better soon :-)

How very wise Jess :) I tried a book club a few years ago. Maybe I'll try again. Thank you for being so encouraging.