Keep accusing hubby of cheating? Can it all just be in the mind??

[blondebaby111]

Just that really?? It's driving me crazy, when he is at work I'm constantly suspicious he is up to no good , not helping that he has a new female boss who quite frankly I'm wary of. But at times I picture crazy things in my head, when he rings to say he's working late he's with 'her' , if he's too long at the gym it's because he's been on the phone to 'her' I'm almost obsessed!! I've been checking everything, constantly playing detective! Of course I am aware that he could be but having had anxiety in the past could my own mind be paying tricks on me??

It's starting to cause us major problems and I'm trying to stop. I've been off anxiety meds for years but having had a baby 9 months ago I'm not sure if this is worthy of a trip to the docs or not, I don't want to waste their time if I'm just being a jealous, irrational nutter!!!

It's possible that your DH is having an affair but if he isn't you are killing your marriage. I think some counselling would be a good idea.

Theres a lot of adjustment to be made after having a baby. It can be very unsettling. Is your DH generally honest? With you/ with others? Is he considerate to your position / feelings? Is he affectionate? Are you getting any leisure time/ gym time? What about this woman makes you feel wary?

Well m coping in all aspects of my life, I get out and about lots. I've confronted things, loads of suspicious things to which I wasn't happy about to which he has now changed passwords to accounts( we've always know each other's passwords to facebook etc ) hiding credit card statement etc so no he is most definately not helping. He says it's for my own good as he can't stand me snooping and he says he isn't having an affair but it's so hard because why change things if you have nothing to hide.
He's not as affectionate but working long hours he's always tired. I feel quite alone right now to be honest

What kind of suspicious things? Honestly, it doesn't sound great the way he's acting.

It all started a few months after he had a new boss ( female) with being a bit cagey with his phone, popping into work on his day off all tarted up, then there were coincidences which I only found out about while checking social media, both being in the same area while he was 'away on a course' , the week she has off work he's home earlier every day, silky things but to me they were important, the list goes on but I don't want to mention it on here. I'm fed up of being told it's all in my head to which I think ' well is it?? ' . But to me, if he was insecure with me the last thing I would do would be to change passwords, id be trying to reassure him at every moment.

There's been lots of changes, he got promoted so I've had to get used to his different working hours but I'm also not daft either. I can sense it in my guy at times that something is wrong, very wrong! But I know when you have anxiety it can also play tricks on your mind too

I'm trying to think what I would do if I was your H and innocent. I doubt I would have changed my passwords and hidden my bank statements, if anything I would have been more open to help my wife feel secure. I'm sorry blondebaby111 but it sounds as if your suspicions may be spot on.

In all honesty?
You dont know. I dont know. Could be nothing.
But i can see why you are suspicious and I think that comes from his behaviour rather than your state of mind.

Do you think it may be part of your MH and you are pushing him away.

But why keep the bank statements hidden? Is it a sole account? Or can you get the bank to send you a copy. Can you demand to see his FB? What would he do?

Generally things are a lot better, we've spoken at great length about it all, passwords have been changed back and everything is fine. Looking back I was a nightmare but dh certainly didn't help the situation to make it any better, for now I hope I don't feel the need to be suspicious anymore but it was an awful awful time for me. Thanx for your comments