Bit of background - DSIL emigrated to another country with her partner who then went on to end the relationship four years later. Instead of coming home for support, (she saw that as being a failure to come back with no partner or child?!) she stayed there a number of years alone. Threatened her ex with suicide and ended up in a mental health clinic where she was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. She had counselling but didn't find it to help. She seemed to have ups and downs for next few years thereafter but we thought she was mainly ok.
She has been torn about the idea of coming home after being abroad for 10 years. And finally, after admitting her loneliness has made the decision to return to UK. She comes back for Xmas and then again for good in February, which is great as she can be supported properly by her family.
I have had a text from her this morning saying she is very unwell with anxiety and depression, and she is not functioning and doesn't recognise herself. She is in a mental health clinic, wants to tell her parents but doesn't want to worry them.
My question is, how do we support her on the other side of the world? What words of comfort shall I give her? Do you think I should sent DH on a plane to help her? I don't know much about BPD so if anyone has any experience, I will be grateful to hear from you. Of course we will be telling her parents, it is too big to keep from them.
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