what do I say to my daughter - looks like she's anorexic

[Rosesarered1]

help - I need to tread carefully - she's in her early 20s and has had a bad time after an abusive relationship. We have a good relationship but I need to tread carefully. Pretty sure I know what not to say, but what should I say?

What makes you think she is anorexic? Do you know what her bmi is? Are you close? I work in mental health, but not eating disorders so I have some knowledge but not an expert.

Tell her that she is looking failed and you are a bit worried. Ask if there is anything wrong physically. Ask how she is following her break up. Tell her that you love her and will always support her.

You say you need to "tread carefully", what do you mean OP?

she is very very very thin - I haven't see her for a couple of weeks but she told her sister that she tried on a pair of size 0 trousers and they were too big
I need to tread carefully as she has just come out of an abusive and emotionally controlling relationship where she was 'persuaded' that DH and I were the cause of all her troubles. Thongs with us are OK now but she is still emotionally fragile and easily upset not surprising

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Ask her how she's feeling. I don't know what your relationship is like with her but you care enough to worry and thats a big start. Don't push issues with her give her space whatever it may be ie anger, tears, denial or maybe relief that someone has noticed she needs help. Please be aware that its a long road to start though. If you are right with your concerns. If she's willing book a double appointment with the Gp as she may not be anorexic and have other underlying health issues. Whatever you choose and meet with her Good luck.