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Please help me (trigger warning)

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sterlingarcher · 14/09/2014 13:07

OK, I'll admit, I'm not a mum. I've been lurking on mumsnet for a while and have always found this community to be helpful. I've registered to ask for help.
I'm lying in mine and fiancé's spare room thinking about how to kill myself while he lies downstairs and probably thinks about how to tell me he's not going to be able to go through with our wedding in just under three weeks.
I've been taking prescription painkillers, sometimes with some alcohol at night, to help me sleep. My fiancé has no idea. This has been going on for the last few weeks since he confronted me with texts from a man who I found online and met to engage in oral sex for money. I done this in January and at the time I was having flashbacks, nightmares and panic attacks because of my rape at 12 years of age. Up until then I had never coped with it. I told my fiancé about this for the first time. I wanted to try and explain why I'm so f*cked up in the head. I feel all I'm good for is sex. We talked through this and he agreed that he would work on things if I got help. I have since spoken to Rape Crisis and am planning on going to their centre to speak face to face with a counsellor.
I also placed ads on Craigslist for worn panties (I never provided these) and responded to a couple looking for a female for a three some (I never followed through with this). He just found about this yesterday and confronted me. Naturally he doesn't believe me when I tell him these things never happened. He is also angry that I never fessed up when he found out about this man a few weeks ago.
I spent all day yesterday thinking about the best way to kill myself. I have no way to do this discreetly and not enough pills in the house. I've cut all across my breasts (having some body issues right now) with a razorblade. I just can't bear to think of my family's pain when I'm dead. I tried the samaritans but I couldn't get the words out.
If I go to A&E will they help me? I feel like a timewaster and a drama queen. It's all my own fault I feel like this. But I don't recognise the person I was in January and I want the old me back. I just want to marry my fiancé and be a good wife to him. Please help.

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PlacidApricots · 14/09/2014 13:10

you are not a timewaster, get to a and e and tell them you feel suicidal. They will help you

windchimes23 · 14/09/2014 15:32

A&E right now, no messing about. You are not a drama queen or a time waster, seek help and keep on posting here. We will do what we can to talk you through it but you need help in real life right now. Unmumsnetty hugs to you.

fluffydressinggown · 14/09/2014 17:38

They will help you in a&e, be prepared for a looong wait though so take some magazines and snacks.

Explain how you feel, especially that you have plans - it is important that they know.

windchimes23 · 15/09/2014 11:34

How are you feeling today? Did you seek help? If you are still down and can't face a&e please go and see your GP, you do not need to be like this just go to the surgery and tell them you are feeling very low, contemplating suicide, they have a duty of care to see you. It may not feel like it now, but there is help if you can reach out, you have been damaged and it's not your fault. Please seek help x

sterlingarcher · 15/09/2014 15:10

Hello all, thank you for your kind words. I feel like I'm going insane. I keep doing things I don't remember doing (eg my engagement ring was off and my underwear has been changed)
I am still in the spare room after 2 and a half days and have only left to go to the toilet. I've not eaten. My fiancé hasn't approached me. I'm too scared to seek help and have just lay here thinking about getting enough energy to get up and leave and throw myself off a bridge.
I don't how to get the words out to anyone and I'm scared that I have no one to talk to now. I can't tell my friends or family about this and my rock and the love of my life has not spoken to me for two and a half days

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AbbieHoffmansAfro · 15/09/2014 15:18

Call 999 if you have to, but do please get help.

windchimes23 · 15/09/2014 16:08

Please seek help, just go to you GP and tell them you are having a crisis. Your DP will probably be more relieved than anything is you reach out and tell him you've hit a really bad low. Could he drive you there if you don't feel safe alone. Please look after yourself, no one deserves to feel like this.

fluffydressinggown · 15/09/2014 16:34

Please seek help. xx

sterlingarcher · 16/09/2014 00:31

Thank you all. I went to the GP and told him everything. He said it should be my fiance sitting across from him crying and not me and gave me some useless beta blockers. So I went to my lovely friend's and had a chat with her. Getting it all off my chest was great. Especially since I was so scared she would judge me. She helped me so much and I've opened up to my fiance now. We are working through this and he says he will help me :)

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windchimes23 · 16/09/2014 08:15

I glad to hear things are getting better. Take care Smile

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