How to deal with serious regrets?

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I mean the kind if regrets that have derailed your life? Mine include choosing an abusive dp in past and choosibg the wrong career. Also not standing up to bullies at school.
My lovely neighbour told me that her dd works for Vivienne Westwood in London. Id love to live in London and have an amazing career but I cant as am too scared to leave my support network and dd loves it here.
Instead I live in a lovely but dull rural backeater where I grew up with lots of triggers from past but lots of support.
My career has stalled and I do struggle to keep jobs due to pst.
Am also single but not happy about this. :-(
Meh describes my life apart from dd who is just the best thing ever. I find mothethood tough though albiet rewarding.

Back water that should read!

Also I have bpd. That should read and ptsd maybe.

Let's look at what you have accomplished. I gather from your post that you got rid of the abusive dp, you have a happy and healthy dd and you have people in your life who love and support you. Many people don't achieve those things.

You can do nothing now about the choices you made, except to learn from them. While you would like to have a partner, no relationship is better than an abusive one. Is the problem with getting a new relationship that you don't meet new people, do not manage to behave in a way that attract people, etc.?

You didn't stand up to bullies at school. Are you assertive now? Can you stand up for yourself and your dd when the occasion demands it?

Bad career choices can be rectified. Is it possible for you to study part time in a field that you are interested in and that could lead to a new career?

I think you could really benefit from therapy to help you overcome these issues that are holding you back. You seem to have low self esteem. Some of the things that helped me was to do volunteer work and learn some new skills.

hth

I'm struggling with the bullying thing tbh. I've been bullied out of a job in the last year. Whilst I have achieved a lot I'm not living the life I want.

The house is a tip, I'm having a boot sale to get rid of stuff. Dd makes a huge mess and hardly helps me to tidy and the cat has brought fleas in the house. I just had to spend £41.00 to de flea!

My period is about to start which might be why I'm feeling so down!

How old is your dd?

Check this thread, maybe the advice there will help with the fleas.

So your house is a tip. BUT you're holding a boot sale, that's a very positive step. It's amazing how much arbitrary stuff we can accumulate, isn't it? Getting rid of some of it will help you feel lighter mood-wise as well. Have you started sorting the stuff out yet?

I'm sorry you got bullied out of a job. Is having some therapy to help you learn assertiveness an option?

Superstar I felt like this just recently. I spent years feeling scared and not doing things because of anxiety. I felt I'd let my two DS down by not always taking them places because sometimes it was too hard. That I had missed chances and wasted time in my life. However I've realised actually I've managed really well despite being ill. I hope you can start to move towards doing things with your life that may not be what you thought you wanted, but will make you happier.

Hi all. I think I'd like to feel just a little but successful rather than feeling that time is running out/ reducing my options.
I can't quite describe it but when I read magazines full of articles and pictures of " successful" people I feel quite jealous.