Nobody likes me.

[AloneInTheWilderness]

I'm becoming awfully down at the prospect of forever being lonely/not having friends.

I have 2 children under 18 months and since the eldest was born and up until now, I've taken either one/both to a playgroup most days.

I speak to a couple of ladies at one of them, but the other 4, I sit alone whilst everyone happily chats to others. It's as though I'm invisible and it's really getting me down.

I'm not an outgoing person, but I always smile at people/try to appear warm, but it gets me nowhere. I feel worthless and always come away feeling crushed.

I suffer tension headaches and migraines as it is, without all this added stress. I feel like I'm failing my children, too. I mean, how will they suffer with me being a sad loner?

My DP doesn't know how I feel - I'm too embarrassed to admit that nobody actually talks to me.

Just wondering if antidepressants would help me...

Does anyone else feel this way?

Oh I found those baby groups to be the seventh circle of hell. I just couldn't seem to be one of those mums who goes for coffee after, I just sat there. I also got banned from baby massage because my baby screamed too much. I haven't any good advice, but if you want an online buddy with children with a similar age gap IM me, I'm not the most social of people but found groups just awful. I ended up just wandering around the park and going to cafés on my own. Didn't want to leave your thread unanswered, you are not alone, there are tons of us out there. My friend even quoted me in a book about the hell of baby toddler groups, so I am even literary

Thank you, Itisnt.

I have similar aged children too, and also don't find it easy at groups. I usually try to go along with a friend, as that makes integrating easier. Maybe you could go to fewer groups, but take someone along with you, if that's an option? I have never, I don't think, made a real friend at an open group, and I AM quite outgoing and chatty...

I hated groups and they made me anxious so I didn't go in the end. You sound like it's really upsetting you. Is there anything else that is bothering you?

I've made an appt to see the dr next Monday.

I feel so wretched, anxious and sad all the time. I think I have PND, and guilty that I've left it so long to see a dr about it :(

With two little ones under 18 months life is going to be hard going. Don't make the mistake of taking the blame for that. Itself hard because of you. It's hard because I'm guessing you get no time to yourself, not enough sleep and because little ones are very hard work.
You need to be kind to yourself and settle for the fact that you are doing the best you can.
Anyone who makes it look easy/fun/even anyone who appears to know what yet are doing is....winging it! They are putting on a great show but behind closed doors everyone struggles.
By all means chat to your GP or HB.

Posted too soon!
Should read GP or HV!!
Also when you get chance...ha..ha look at something called mindfulness. It helps you to focus away from things which make you anxious and hard on yourself and concentrate on the moment.
Mumsnet is a great
to get some handholding