Thanks in advance for reading what must seem like another sob story.
I'm having real difficulties with my Sister and I'm at the end of the line. She's a single mother with 2 children from an un-named partner and a now ex husband. I've always made myself available 24 hours a day and have played a large part in the children's upbringing.
I fear that her mental health has got to the point that her children are suffering. Her relationship with a 15+ string family has broken down to the point that she no longer speaks with any of them and I'm the only one left.
Our relationship is very strained and no matter what I suggest for the best I'm always the bad guy who's calling her a terrible mother. I've come to the belief that she doesn't want to be helped as for every solution I create, another problem is delivered until ultimately I end up being the bad man who's telling her she's a bad mum and she throws me out or blocks my number or de-friends me on Facebook and Twitter.
I'm by no means a saint or a great friend but there hasn't been one occasion where I've said she was a bad mother. I've suggested that her mental health might be affecting her children's physical and mental health but it all comes back to I'm judging her and calling her a bad mother.
She's anything but calm and the children are presenting with physical illnesses because of it. I don't know what to do, phoning Social Services won't do ant good and she's not physically abusing her kids but she refuses to get help and it's affecting the children.
If anyone could offer any advice as to how I could bring her round to her needing professional help I'd be most grateful. I'm taking days off work, not going on holiday and it's affecting my own relationships with my wife and the family that she's disconnected herself from.
Thanks