Abortion Depression?

[chlopops25]

I had an abortion a few weeks ago and ever since I've just been increasingly more depressed.
I feel like I was pushed into the decision by everyone else and that I just didn't get a say in things! My mum said she was 'dissapointed' and just assumed I was getting rid! I am only 18, but I have seen plenty of young mums who are doing an awesome job!
I live with my other half, and I thought he wanted me to get the abortion but since he has said we made the wrong choice!
The trauma of the abortion will stay with me forever.. the pain and how cold all the nurses were towards me.
I am just now so unhappy with myself, and all I want now is a baby :(

Has anyone been in a similar position and got through it? I don't want to ruin my relationship by being so unhappy all the time..

I was raped at 15 by my boyfriend which resulted in pg. my mum forced me to terminate. I had a baby with a different man within two years. Because my arms just felt empty.

Ten years on the abortion is still my biggest regret however it doesn't hurt as much

Firstly you are going through a huge hormone dip. Massive. You are going to feel depressed right now regardless of the decision you made so please don't feel this will never end. At some point your hormones will equalise and you'll be in a better position to honestly deal with where you are and how you move forward.

Secondly, get some help. You made your decision for reasons you felt were valid at that time. Hindsight is 20:20 but you didn't have that at the time. It may or may not have been the right choice for you but either way you did your best. If you can't see that talk to someone who can help you see that. It's important. Even if you ultimately decide you'd do things differently you need to reconcile the fact that you did your best at that moment in time.

Finally, get some help. You've done nothing wrong. You tried your best to balance a huge number of things, people, feelings, in a tiny amount of time. You did your best. No one deserves to berate themselves endlessly for that.

Hugs to you, take care of yourself

Sorry to hear about your pain. I had a termination in the year 2000 and I was traumatised from it. I perhaps should have considered counselling by Marie Stopes. Is this a route you could pursue maybe?

Do you have a lady GP you get on well with at your surgery who could give you some hormone tablets to balance out how you feel as when I was doing some volunteering in a drug rehab one time this is what somebody had to do as they felt so down. It helped them get back on their feet mentally and physically. This is an option for you?

I didn't use to believe in too many tablets around the time of the termination but I wish I had gone to the GP when I look back. I know there is help out there for you.

You could also call on your local womens centre if there is one in your area as I went to that for a while to a support group which I found helpful but I have to say I wish I had gone right ahead and got some hormone tablets to put me on a quicker level again. They really helped the person I worked with.

Good luck and I do hope this helps.