Massive argument with dh.

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He has accused me of either being mentally ill (I'm bipolar type scizoaffective) or off to buy drugs (I'm a recovering addict thanks to my last episode) because there was no healthy snacks no drinks( I have three very fussy two on autistic spectrum dc) nothing for lunch. So after dinner at 6:50 I decided to go to tesco with a friend.

This friend is not a drug addict and never facilitated my drug use or was present for any of it. But this is a single male friend with insomnia who when I was manic I went on many nights out with. I chose to go this evening with friend instead of tomorrow while dh is in work because of having to drag three dc two with sn the third a toddler round tesco tomorrow. I am weak having just recovered from a year long psychotic depression and trying to keep my anxiety levels down as I am more likely to relapse if stressed.

I just feel like dh has become too much of a carer and now accuses me of being unwell at every turn.

I just went to tesco. I went ten minutes before bedtime leaving a clean house and came home to a pigsty. This putting me in a bad mood. So I was not ready to hear dh accusing me of being ill.

Hi op, sorry to hear you have been through such a lot. I hope somebody wiser than me will reply to your post but just wanted to wish you well with your recovery

Your decision to go to Tesco when you did made absolute sense. I would also have been angry if I went out for a short while and came back to a messed up house. All you can do is your best and if your dh doesn't think you're coping he must pitch in and help. Can you talk to him when you're both calm and discuss how you see your state of health, how he sees it, and what you both need to work on?

I have discussed it with him and he said he just feels on edge considering I was manic from the January before last to July. Then depressed from July to the beginning of this July. While they were trying to stabilise me and get my medication right following a pregnancy.

He said he feels like he is constantly waiting for a sign that I am becoming unwell. That he spent the last year coming home from work and not knowing if I would have od on drugs or tried to commit suicide. He says he is just finding it hard to adjust. So maybe if I give him more time he will get better.

I can see your point of view and DH's. I think you need to be very kind to yourselves and each other and take things day by day. Keep communicating.