to start, sorry to use this topic. wasnt sure were else to put it.
my grandpa, my mum's dad, died late tuesday night. it is sad, obviously, but he had been old and so on. the consensus is that its for the best, as people say.
the tricky bit is that he and my mum had become estranged. they had a tricky time together, but deeply loved eache other. this most recent hiatus started three years ago.
she has a brother. oh, and granpda had adopted her, by the way. and this most recent estrangement was from both her brother and her father in the context of my grnadma's death.
anyway, sorry, i'm rambling. essentially, i spoke to her brother and he wants nothing to do with her. i should say i think they are both a bit out of order, and responsible and so on. he has been living with grandpa (abroad) and doesnt want my mum to go to the funeral. i dont think there would be a fight, but i do think it would be frosty/hostile.
i feel very strongly that she should go, and we should be with her, because she need the experinece, the closure. but am i wrong? maybe we could go, but not to the actual funeral, to pay repsects and remember him and so on. or should she let her brother - who asked "why would she want to go, he wasnt her biological father?" - push her around.
help???