not feeling quite myself, what should I do?

[Theseus]

I know this is all quite small stuff compared with what other people go through but I am not quite myself at the moment and I was wondering whether lots of people feel like this a lot of the time and I should just stop indulging myself by thinking about it, or whether I should be looking for counselling or something. Feels a bit odd even typing that actually.

I have been having odd feelings of dissociation and quite physical lurches in my stomach. It makes it hard to speak sometimes. And then sometimes I just curl up and sleep during the day. today I have been feeling a bit light and unreal and then I was hoovering and I just curled up in a ball on the floor, rocked for a bit and then went to sleep.

Mostly I am pretty much fine really and I don't suppose people would know. And I daresay it will all pass. But the thing that is making me pause a bit is that actually I enjoy the sensation of lurching and dissociating and I don't really want to do breathing to stop it happening. I find myself wishing someone would just look after me really. Which is so pathetically embarrassing I can hardly type it.

What would you do? ANything? Just stop being self indulgent and get on with stuff?

Something is happening, though I am no expert so I dont know what exactly?
Has anything like this happened before?

It could even be something physical?

Hi - seeing a Gp to rule out anything physical is always wise. And only a Gp can assess you. Always worth seeing one.

If you are wanting to be looked after, can you consider ways is which you can aim to meet those goals? From self care, to booking a coffee with a friend, to a few hours of free time to do something just for you etc.

The NHS does fund free counselling to anyone, so worth asking for referral or finding out how to self refer. However, waiting times vary in different areas - and obviously depends on severity of issues and symptoms. Some areas do telephone counselling, or group sessions - it is not an automatic book free sessions on a 1:1 basis. Also the aim of counselling is usually to help you find the answers within your own resources - so can be challenging. Sometimes the focus is a cbt approach - it depends on your diagnosis/presenting issues/symptoms. No choice usually about who you see.

Usually 6 sessions (ish) short term. Many people say it helps them.

If you are wanting a nurturing, hand holding experience then going private is usually a way of getting as many sessions as desired and an approach that suits you - as you can choose. Obviously has a cost.

fwiw, I once felt very out of sorts. Didnt knowwhat was happening at all.
Had painful ears next day, and it was an everyday ear infection.

Thank you for replying. I am pretty sure it isn't physical. I have some stressful things going on ATM and I think it's to do with that.

Do you think it's the sort of thing I should just ignore & carry on? I suppose I am wondering a bit why I feel so much that I would like to lose control and let someone look after me, but examining that seems self-indulgent and navel-gazey. Perhaps as my mother would say, I should pull myself together.

Yes, it does sound like you need cuddles in the first instance. Is there someone who you can confide in and perhaps be cuddled by?

If things are stressful and you feel you want looking after why not:

• implement as much self care as is possible ( early nights, treats, not doing things that not have to be done)
• see if family/friends can help share your load/burden.

Who would look after you and family if you stopped? Could you talk to them and seE if you can have some holiday/time out/day in a spa - anything that can give you some space and peace?

Thank you for talking to me. I have a v nice DH but somehow I can't seem to step down from being in charge of making things happen and looking competent. I did tell him about having panic attacks and he is concerned but it doesn't make him behave v differently tbh. I don't get many cuddles these days now I come to think about it.

I am v good at not doing things, whether they need doing or not

And indulging myself already with early nights etc but I don't think it is helping.

What would you like from your dh to make things a bit easier for a while? Sometimes they need specific instructions ( mine does anyway!!)

Ask for cuddles from people. Cuddles are good.

I don't know what would make things easier. I'm upset & worried about something and there's not much to be done other than all the things I'm doing already.

I like the cuddles prescription but might feel a bit weird!!