Hello ladies,
I wanted to share some philosophy for why it is okay you feel the way you do and you have nothing to be ashamed or embarressed about. Others dont understand because your problem is not understood by the public as physical it is understood as "mental" and that is not totally true.
"mental Illnesses " can be seen just like cancer or an infection, dr.s can take brain scans and measure the brain chemical responsible for the way you feel.
This will soon all change as the psycology paradigm changes from bio-psycho-social to just neroscience.
As general public dont see your problem as physical they dont understand why you cant just "get over it " and "stop acting that way"
As mothers you are intrinsically selfless and it feels like when you take a moment to deal with your feelings you are acting selfish for not giving 100% attention to your kids and husband.
This needs to change it makes you more sick when you ignore what you need to cater to those around you and do it with a smile.
Remember on the airplanes " put your oxygen mask on before your childs " you have to take care of yourself - save yourself first because you cant take care of your children if you are dead.
This means take the time to address number 1 (you) and do what you need to .
I am someone who ignored my mental health problems for many years because my parents are very proper and it was seen as a terrible weakness and embarrassment for me to have probems so they were never addressed.... I
I was molested as a child for a few years at the age of 7 , I was abused by my boyfriends in teenage years and got drugged and sexually abused , not the life expected for the daughter of a succsessful engineer and business vp .
My developing mental health problems were ignored and I was taught to shut up about it . I was so hurt almost more hurt by how I was made to feel ashamed of my problem rather than deal with it .... I became a heroin addict ( something that couldnt be ignored and that was my way of both dealing with the pain , slowly kill myself, and my last ditch effort to try to get the love and acceptance from my family that I needed... The aknowledgement that yes i did have a real problem . I was mentally ill and I just wanted them to aknowledge it.
I am a very moral person and philisophical not a bad person , I would do anything to help others ...... and I became an escort ...
I think of myself as a little girl and think how sad... That little girl did not deserve this life.....
it would be very different if my mental health problems were addressed
This is my blog
www.itshouldntbefunny.wordpress.com
I was so alone,
Please address your problem dont be ashamed or afraid.... address your childrens problems dont let this happen to them what happened to me could have been avaoided .