Interfering mother.

[Imsuchamess]

I have scizoaffective disorder (not that my mother believes that) I am on a severe psychotic episode I also have severe stomach pain constantly and am awaiting a endoscopy and colonoscopy to discover the cause (which again my mother has no sympathy for). I also have three children with special needs, one severe. I am a sahm dh works 8-5

Owing to all the above I am severely struggling. So me and dh agreed I would clean and take care of the three bedrooms the two living rooms and hall. My husband will see to the kitchen and cooking and as he is cooking he will do the shopping and decide what meals we are eating. Me and dh are happy with this.

My mother saw him doing the shopping and gave him a half hour lecture about how I should be doing that not him. She then came up and had a go at me about it.

Perhaps your mother has something to do with your schizoaffective disorder.

On the other hand she may be genuinely concerned that you can't cope. Some people go into a panic when they fear for someone, then try and minimise the effect by going into denial, hence ignoring you concerns and pushing you away. People do that when they feel helpless, controlling people do especially do that.

Perhaps if you try and see her as someone who just can't help being a bit of a cow you can move on and build on the good people and things in life.

If you and your dh have agreed to this and you are both happy with it then it is none of your mums business. I think I'd either nod alot through these lectures and then do it my own way anyway or tell her it's an arrangement between you and your dh and she should butt out!