1st day back at work, and dp making snide comments about how i won't be spending any time with ds

[PanicPants]

Having a moan about dp, and the fact I'm back at work after a year on mat. leave.

Been gearing myself up for this for months, on ad (citalopram 20mg) and was feeling really good, practically back to my old self again and am coming off them.

Anyway, today go into work, have a good day,then go to pick up ds from my sisters and he doesn't want me to hold him and puts up his arms for my sister to have him constantly. So thats ok, I realise thats just because he's been with her all day, so we come home and then dp comes in.

Asks if ds has walked anymore today (he took his first steps ysterday) and then makes a comment about how I wouldn't know about that as I won't be spending anytime with him.

And then later, when I'm annoyed as I stupidly brought some work home with me and left it in the hall so ds has got into it, dp says to ds that he should get used to Mummy being in a bad mood now I' m back at work.

I can't win, feel exhauseted and so demoralised. I never wanted to go back to work, but my flexible working hours application was rejected so I only have the choice of full time or resign. We can't afford for me not to work so I have no choice.

Ok, moan over.

Had a much better day today. I showed dp this thread and so far I've had breakfast brought to me, flowers and chocolate cake today

I guess it took dp reading other peoples opinions to understand how much it hurts when he makes throw away comments like that.

I asked him why he said it, and he said he didn't know, but is fairly contrite today.

AND I had a lovely day at work today.

Possumhead, thanks for the text, def meet up for coffee soon, glad Goergie's tooth has finally come through, it's been ages!! Being on ad's isn't really what you talk about in RL is it! Was diagnosed with PND after James was born but now am much much better and in the process of coming off them.

Glad your day went well yesterday too, today it was as if the last year had never happened!

That is wonderful, hope you continue to have good days and he continues to be supportive, my dh would never be as sweet as that after he has messed up I think it is great - flowers and cake, and breakfast!

maybe now he wil think before he opens his mouth as little comments can really hurt sometimes

I think we should have a little Mumsnet round of applause for your DH taking our criticism on the chin and doing something about it.

Hurrah for MrPanicPants!

Wahey! Good stuff!

Bravo!

OK, so he's not such a git after all . Well done MrPanicPants, and glad that things arre going better for you PanicPants.

Brilliant news - and great that he took it on the chin like that.

He's gone from zero to hero in my book.

Thankyou everyone, had a nice week (well as much as expected anyway).

Funny to think he read it! The comment applies the other way round. He has also missed seeing her walk because he "selfishly" chose to work. Children have two parents and most women with children under 5 choose to work. Women have always worked except a few richers ones in the UK in the Victorian age and a few post war who mostly ended up on valium.

My response would be 'well, I'll be seeing him about as much as you do love'.