Worries overwhelming mind..

[SapphireMoon]

If I have a worry it can overwhelm my mind to the point nothing else gets a look in. Affects my day, how I sleep etc.
Aware that if really big worry comes along [someone close being ill, death etc] my small [in other people's minds] worries can be kicked into touch.
However, in the here and now they are disabling and stops me getting on with everyday stuff without looking stressy/ talking too fast/ being very boring.
How do people compartmentalise their minds? Bought some Kalms yesterday in hope. Do they work?
Sent few inappropriate emails re current 'worry' which of course I am now worrying about as poor recipients not replied yet.
This is anxiety I guess? [In late 40s so think maybe hormones not helping either?]. Always been a worrier though.
Out today so may not be back to thread for a while. Need to try and focus on ds's birthday and not witter on at everyone...
Any advice appreciated.
Thank you.

I think CBT or a chat with your gp about anti-anxiety medication, the NHS has an article here on self-help for anxiety www.nhs.uk/Conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/Pages/self-help-therapies.aspx

Thanks EssexMummy. Think I will look at self help stuff.

What is your worry at the me Sapphire?

My anxiety is similar. I have health anxiety and whatever I currently worry I have (at the moment a tumour of some kind) it just takes over.

Someone used the Royal We in talking to a colleague which made it look like I was gossiping when I wasn't. I went into stunned guilty silence.

Friend who was culprit amazed when I was upset and told me not to be silly as this woman [who sort of can affect things in a particular field for me] will think nothing of it. I am worried I will be seen as indiscreet when I'm not.
Probably least said soonest mended situation as bringing it up/ explanations may make me seem OTT. I may have to accept situation and move on.
It is occupying too much of my mind for something which is irritating but not something I can change.

Oh and Howmuch I do understand health anxiety. Decided indigestion was pancreatic cancer recently...

Was just thinking about posting something similar. I am ruminating about a few worries at the moment. Nothing life threatening but ones that time will definately give an answer. Trouble is in the meantime I am flattened. Can't engage with things, have to push myself to do anything, hence the ironing mountain. DH had to do the shopping this morning as I couldn't face it.
The worries will lead to disappointment if the outcome is not as I want but will not alter plans, in the meantime I waste so much time.
How do people just get on with things???

I really recommend a book called 'The Compassionate Mind' by Dr Paul Gilbert. He combines some aspects of CBT with some meditation and a lot of very reassuring scientific (but easy to understand) explanations about why our brains have all these worrying thoughts. It made a big difference to me.