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Mental health

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Please help

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TeeManyMartoonis · 04/06/2014 20:07

Sorry - posted on Chat but not really many replies and feeling v blue.

I have, to most of the world, lots of things to be happy about. I have been promoted, I have a good figure and am quite attractive (I am told), I have a lovely DH, a first class degree from a top university, I am part of an amateur dramatics group and do a lot for the place I live in. i am well known and I think well regarded.

But i have no real close friends and am beset with, i think, anxiety. I joined a squash club - to try ad get fit and maybe make some friends. Was due to go to my first club night tonight. I froze. I couldn't go. I told DH I had work to do (that is true, but I could have/should have done it when I got home).

So now I am alone and in tears. DH doesn't understand (he does try) and I hate myself. I'm so pathetic. Please coudl someone just talk to me?

Thank you

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TeeManyMartoonis · 04/06/2014 20:19

No-one?

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Preciousbane · 04/06/2014 20:38

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alittlebitmeh · 04/06/2014 21:09

Hi Tee. I am also suffering from anxiety at the moment and it is a horrible horrible thing. It feels very debilitating. You sound like you are doing an awful lot at the moment. I have approached mine in 2 ways as I don't want it to get too deep rooted. I have been to the gp for some medication but I have also asked to be referred for some CBT which I'm hoping will be really helpful. Could that be something you might find helpful?

Millie2013 · 04/06/2014 21:12

I'm so sorry you are so unhappy and that you feel so alone and "unheard". What struck me, reading your OP, was that you describe yourself as you seem to appear "to most of the world". Those achievements and attributes may seem desirable to many, but where are you in it all?
Have you ever looked at/thought about counselling? I think you would be very well suited, as you seem very self aware.
It's bloody hard work, but so worth if, I promise

Millie2013 · 04/06/2014 21:13

*it, not if :)

Ziplex · 04/06/2014 21:18

I think you have to be mindful of just because you 'should' be happy is a massive, huge pressure and if you're not happy or feeling well then you aren't, you can't just magic happy regardless.
I agree with the poster who says CBT helps with anxiety, also pop to your GP and have a chat.
There are many forms of help that you can get but you have to go get them. There is no miracle cure unfortunately, I have a chronic anxiety and panic disorder that crippled my life for many, many years but now after lots of therapy and help ( you have to push for it and don't be palmed off not matter how high the barriers) I have managed to live a life that is not dictated by this condition.

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